People want us to accept them right where they are. People want us to love them right where they are. We all do the best we can while we are on the way to where we are going. We all fall short. Why do we fall short? We fall short, because we are all being perfected or completed by his love. Everyone is in process. Maturity is forgiving. Being forgiven. Maturity is not throwing it in one another’s face where we have failed. Maturity is not venting in order to get it off your chest so that you make sure that other person knows where they harmed you. Identity is staying in a relationship as we all grow into his image more strongly and more clearly and more definitely. I encourage you to look at your own flaws instead of someone else’s. I encourage you to do what the word says… Put on Christ. Forgive as you have been forgiven before anyone ever wrongs you. Then you will have no inclination to bring up another person’s fault because you would have already forgiven them before it even happened. This is what Jesus Christ did on the cross. He forgave all of us. We get to do the same. He said do not count it against anyone. If you do not count it against them… Then you do not bring it up before them… He has forgiven us as far as the east is from the west. We are supposed to do the same. Indeed… This also is a process.
Forgive those who throw your past up into your face. Move forward. Do not hold it against them. After all they are already forgiven.