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Many people think about being offended with others but they don’t think about what offense does within. It tears you apart. It splits you in multiple pieces. Being offended at yourself breaks down your physical body and it torments your spiritual soul. But you can move from changing to knowing …
What does it look like to be offended at yourself? it is like having a ping-pong ball inside your head going back-and-forth thinking about what you could’ve done differently. A ping-pong ball seems so small. It looks like it could do little to no damage. But over time, the regrets and confusion of wondering what you could’ve done differently destroy your esteem and removes your confidence. It is much more involved than that but for now this small ping pong example will do.
Metanoia is only part of the answer. Changing is in part but knowing is following through ..,
Metanoia is a word which means to change your mind but that is only part of the solution. Deciding to have no regrets is only part of what prevents the ping pong from wreaking havoc in your soul.
The solution is moving from the mere change of mind to the knowing of Truth that holds you in Life.
Making a decision that holds you on solid ground so you can have a new start is part of the solution.
You must move into a place of knowing. Knowing Truth and living from Truth only takes place when you live from Union with the One Who created you … the One you came from … the One Who knows you better than you know yourself.
How do you live from knowing? Well I am so glad you asked …
There is an space inside where you get to make a new decision about you … where are you get to receive the love that lives inside you that perhaps you have never accessed before. It is a process and yet it is also a one time event. The condition of Forgiveness took place at the cross and yet it took place at the beginning of time as well… God came after Adam… He did not ignore Adam when he and Eve disobeyed. Jesus never leaves us nor forsakes us. They are right there with us in the middle of our messes. Leading and guiding by the Spirit.
Love is a condition inside you that perhaps you did not grow up with. Perhaps you’ve been used and abused and never thought Love lived inside you. But love is a Person and Love lives within you… Sometimes you have to move past all the noise to hear the sound of love within. You are good enough. God Lives inside you. You do not have to earn his love. You never had to earn his forgiveness. You are forgiven. You are loved. You get to access it here on this side of the heavens And receive all that love has for you. It is a process. One day at a time. 1 inch at a time. One decision at a time. Two steps forward and three steps back. Over the river and through the woods. You are never alone. You are loved.
And slowly but surely, you realize that the ping-pong ball has less and less power to control you. Little by little you let go of the torment and grab hold of the triumph of the love and forgiveness from within you. It is a journey. It is not a destination. It is not a vacation. It is an adventure. Learning to live from love and rule and reign and govern yourself by the love of God instead of the ping-pong ball of emotional turmoil.
There is an energy and a frequency and a love that you have already that is Triumph. You are worthy my friend.
Join the journey and know that Jesus is already in your midst.. leaning into you.. The Faithful One will help you move from changing to knowing. Love-d
Suddenly love again. A precious woman is faced with her husband’s life here on planet earth ending way too soon. Suddenly.
Life changes. Life ends. People divide. Anguish separates. Love my friends.
It’s intense. It’s mind boggling. Love is the only offering we have for one another. When you don’t understand. Love Again.
When you are misunderstood. Love. When you hear rumors. Believe the more excellent way. Keep short accounts.
When you seemingly can’t forgive. Love. When others won’t forgive you. Love.
Do not mistake your personal distrust as your discernment. Listen not to a gossiper. Just love. Unconditionally. Then, love again.
No, it will not always end up ok. They may drop your friendship with zero explanation. You may be a train wreck. It might be messy. Just owe nothing than love. Then LOVE. Love you. Love them. Love again.
At times convoluted and painful? You bet! Love anyway? Yes. It is His way when you feel unable to trust yourself or them. Live with that Love instead of your own. Love Again. Love-d
Hello. I have wanted to send a surgery update. But I’ve been waiting for one. Waiting for a change. Waiting for a breakthrough. Waiting to share something that is a significant difference. I haven’t had one yet. I realized I still need to respond and follow up and follow through. With you. And though I am sending this to many who have wanted to keep up with me, I have appreciated hearing back from you individually as we have reconnected heart to heart and one on one.
After the surgery, I faced cleaning out my nose and sinus area at least three times a day. Mucus. Blood. Pain. I faced steroids, antibiotics, and pain pills. None of these things are my favorite normally. I don’t even like to take Advil. Several reached out to me who had this kind of surgery almost 20 years ago and their results were not positive. Also what they went through physically was much harsher than what I faced recently. I’m very very thankful. Very.
We followed up with the surgeon who sucked disgusting atrocities from both nostrils… Deep inside. And I was promptly asked if I felt any kind of relief or felt better. Honestly all I could say was no. I did not yet have any change that I knew of. Remember the purpose is for me to have oxygen going to my brain. How will I know when I have a change? Well, I want to see myself sleeping at night with my mouth closed. I need to see a consistent balance come back to my walking down the hallway. I need to see a follow through in my thoughts that takes me from start to follow through to finish. I need to see peace when I look myself back in the mirror. I need to see a calm to life‘s happenings. I need to see my food digest in such a way that it takes the natural course of events inside my body. I need to see health. Surgery update…
Craig mentioned a few moments ago that he noticed I had slept and was sleeping this morning. What he doesn’t know is that I was awake until 4:44 and he saw me at 5:15. He saw me peacefully sleep for right at an hour. And I’m thankful for that hour.
After the surgeon prodded and released me, he asked to see me in two more weeks. He said to continue the mucus and blood flush. I’m trusting God that this surgery was the right direction. No matter what the results, I trust God more today. And though I feel my life is off kilter right now (not forever) – I am learning to trust myself more as well. That’s always a good thing. Father God is reacquainting me with his presents in the joy and his presence in the sorrow, his presence in the living and his presence in the dying, his presence in the life and his presence in the strife, his presence in the sacred and his presence in the secular. God is present because you are present. Don’t face joy alone and don’t face sorrow alone. You have a Greatest Partner Living inside – loving you from victory and Life.
Recently I have taken more intentionality regarding certain habits. One is a conscious intentional breathing and releasing not just negative toxins but actual negative breath and energy that has accumulated during the day. Painting also has caused me to stop and listen in a different way. That’s been a God thing.
Now, for over a week I have been forgetting to do something very specific to help someone whom I love get a lymphatic compression sleeve and glove because of a partial mastectomy. Daily I would forget to call the company to discuss it, order it, pay for it. Yesterday, I finally was able to concentrate enough to sit and go through the process of getting it done. I noticed an attentiveness … I noticed several credit cards that were outdated. These are credit cards I use in ministry, in life and business. I immediately took action and called the banks to discuss it and get those things handled. I do think that blood flow was the reason I was able to do that. I do believe oxygen flowing correctly helped me to actually take action in those areas that I have not before. So to me, there is some thing that changed. And I’m thankful. Surgery update. If you want to read about the reason for my surgery you can check it out here – Wanting Oxygen to my Brain
But just to keep it real, yesterday I had a total meltdown emotionally. It was not good. I’m not sure what additional changes need to be made within me or around me, but mental health is part of our physical health. Our physical health is part of our emotional and mental health. And though everything is spiritual… Not everything is spiritual. So I’m listening close to see what is happening within me….Because it is definitely impacting was happening around me.
Our God is faithful and he’s listening. His LifeForce within. Here’s our every breath. He’s not disappeared and gone anywhere. He’s in the midst of every trouble and trial. He’s in the midst of every piece in the fire. He is in the midst of the floor and the mess. He is in the midst of every sense. So do not give up my friend. It’s a new beginning and a new end. Do not turn to the left or right. But listen close inside to that mind of Christ.
I am OK and you’re OK. God has good things for you and God has good things for me. There’s so much good in us and around us. Do not concentrate on the bad. Do you not concentrate on your regrets or what you wish you had. But take one step in front of the other and listen close to your Father.
This is the season of keeping it real. I don’t have a spiritual lesson or way to tell you to heal. I do know there is an intimacy deep inside of you. So listen deep and listen close and the voice of God will see you through. He’ll give you ideas that you never knew you could have. He’ll explode your heart with life, hope and with love. In the midst of a mess, He will let you address life’s impossibilities with Him … face to face … chin to chin …
HE may have you return to basics of life – away from the busyness and away from the strife. HE will join you in the pause and reassure your night that HE is your Day and with you in the plight.
Many of you have reconnected with me in the season of me keeping it real. I appreciate every note and every card and every single email. I appreciate you giving me time to respond to what’s happening inside of your life. I want you to know that I love you and then we may have lost contact over the years that today I appreciate you and I hold your life dear.
Grieving lasts for a moment but joy?
Joy is in the morning.
Good morning with my surgery update and much love- Donna
Hello friend, I’m having surgery Friday morning (at the time of this writing that is tomorrow). It is unexpected but is a step in my journey to getting oxygen to my brain. Oxygen to the brain can heal grey matter. Oxygen to the brain can seal up a blood brain barrier that is like a cyclone fence. Oxygen to the brain can help your hormones heal. Oxygen to the brain can help your brain sleep when it is time for REM. Funny really … we don’t know how God is going to lead us until we move with Him. HIS leading to me is down a road I would not take with logic. But this last year when my body was shutting down and all my positive mantras and meditation pieces failed, you get to take action … with Him in other ways. We can be so convinced that the positivity tour is the only way – I have heard and soaked and understand. Then, we can lean into the voice of the Christ Who is the Way Who leads us into Life His way … HE loves for us to live. I believe HE loves to lead us through that inner voice…. and let me say that the Inner Voice is personal – its not a vibe – its not just a frequency. It’s the voice that breaks the cedars, causes mountains to melt like wax and gives you creative ideas that change society … or your family bloodline with a Word from Him that brings Life and Love to move cities into relationship with Him. It’s deep and its personal and its worth waiting for – its not always yes – it is sometimes no because what Father always just says yes to whatever a kid wants? Good Fathers have wisdom and timing and avenues for us to follow Him through…building our relationship and giving us Love along the way that causes our security in Him to be secure.
This surgery Friday has to do with sinuses and takes about an hour. If you are a praying person and not a preying person, I welcome thoughts of full recovery 🙂 Over the river and through the woods …this is the journey… sometimes into the desert and sometimes into an ocean but in Him and with Him, we are empowered to walk out our lives victoriously. Will we sometimes be in pain? You betcha? Will we sometimes feel clueless? Duh. IS He faithful inside to lead and guide – oh yes.. So, bless you in your own river and your own woods and your own discovery tour in Christ to know Him.
Last thing… I was talking with someone today about His voice and His life and I discussed how God knows Who He is …that HE does not have an identity crisis and that if they…the person I was talking with did not believe in the Christ…that if they said something like this, “from my spirit alive in my Creator.” …that our God knew Who that was….and our Father would respond. Father is more than able to sync up with this friend and share His goodness and His love so that my friend knows how joined and all in HE has always been …
Relationship friend. Not religion. We don’t have all the language perfect. We don’t all have an academic theology in place.
Oh, but the #Christ? The One Who #dances with you from the inside – HE will never leave or forsake you..even on the bumpiest ride. Until soon and much love…see you after #surgery Friday.. D
What a day and being real. I definitely understand why people drink. Torment causes emotional distress. You know what else causes emotions to rise above the water level? Hormones.
I wonder if King David had hormone issues. That man had some strong ups and downs. If you did not know better you would think he wasn’t “saved.” Not unlike me or maybe even you?
Or are you the quiet one who keeps your emotions so silent that nobody would ever guess you are sad, distraught, depressed or just ticked off? Ya keep that smile in tact? Ya keep those positive messages rolling hoping they will touch your own nerve maybe?
Thankfully it’s not a blow up on you thing. Wait. I take that back. I did that the other day. Poor husband. Mercy on him. Mercy on me. And to the doctors we go my friend. Did I mention hormones?
Curiously I was the one in my forties who thought a simple change of mind, some positive oooohs and ahhhhs and a prayer or two would be the kiss that made all those booo boooos all better. Humbly I submit my heart to you if we have known one another the past 30 years … if I did that to you – my deepest repentant apologies.
Poor King David. He had some definite emotional issues. Paranoia. Fear. Run away. Shut down. Depression. Despair. … hey Davie I feel ya! Being Real.
Thankfully he was forgiven and so am I AND it’s not Fathers heart I sink in oblivion into nothingness and let life pass me by. I’m getting help. Yep. A doctor. #Medical. Ouch. But sometimes you have to do what you have to do …😍😍♥️♥️
A couple months ago God spoke to me through an encounter in my dream life. A friend was with me and she was talking about … can you guess?? Her hormone doctor … funny how Father tells us in Philippians 4 to not be torn in multiple directions but to focus and The answers will be made known to us through Christ Jesus … it doesn’t say over night … it gives no time frame friend. It’s a trust pathway … into the unknown to find the known … Until soon friend. If you are privately feeling condemned because you feel clueless and can’t get breakthrough on some basic mental health issues … maybe you should think outside the box and get a holistic option … a medical evaluation … a homeopathic angle … or something in between … and in the mean time? … don’t be mean to yourself if you snap, rattle or roll but instead … lean in to hear solution before the stress takes it’s toll … Being Real. Love-d
My husband told me last year that he really wanted me to start writing about my how my emotions were impacting my life and I realized I was in a new day and I needed a new strategy.
I thought he was crazy because I help others in their emotional demise and so why on earth would anyone be that transparent regarding a field others come to them for help with?
Also, last year, I had an encounter with a publisher who in my dream time, called me on the phone and invited me to publish a book. How on earth?
All these clues about writing yet reluctance became my friend instead of paying attention to what I’m hearing in my own two ears.
Over the past year and a half, I have had some physical changes which have caused me to question my sanity and sometimes my existence.
Yep. Been strange. But then, new day – new strategy.
It has taken me almost a year to break free of the fear of writing authentically about what I feel and experience … because I have not wanted anyone to think I’m crazy.
I’m finally in that place of I don’t care so here goes.
Today, I go in for a second brain scan to determine if I have had any positive changes since the last one. Oxygen has not been getting to my brain … for almost 20 years. What do I need? A new day – new strategy.
And I wondered why my body broke down?
And I wondered why my emotions hit a wall?
And I wondered why I felt I was going crazy?
And I wondered … well … you probably don’t want to know everything I wondered.
Since I do not believe in a dark night of the soul – suffice to say – I’m in a new place in my life regarding relationships (not many), faith (stronger), trust in society (less), loneliness (richer and stronger), family appreciation (stronger and deeper), fear of dying (still dealing with this one) and… the list goes on…
I realize that I’m simply having a season not unlike yours where you are finding out your weaknesses are your greatest strengths and how God wants you to mature in your weaknesses not shrivel up and die from them. Husbands. Help. Hormones.
So, that is what I’m confronting these days – my inability to just snap out of it and rock on like I used to … I’m literally having to stop. I’m having to slow. I’m having to be alone. I’m having to breath in and out with greater intention. I’m having to look at things like hormones and oxygen to the brain and cell life and water and… friendship with myself and humanity. I’m having to literally say no to just going out and be happy to remain at home with nothing but my paintbrush because anything more makes me want to cry. New Day – New Strategy.
Pretty confident I am not alone in the changes taking place. I’m almost positive you – my precious reader – have been undergoing strong changes and you are stepping into your greatest hour of discovering just what you too are made of.
Don’t give up.
Remember God looks at everything and is not as compartmentalized as we are and HE has solutions for things we think are hopeless and HE is more practical than we think He is as well… like…if you are cold…put a sweater on or use a blanket … if your car is out of gas – fill it up … like your physical body has issues so pray about this for 10 years with zero help and watch it fall apart because God is not healing you … WAIT… I mean… take some practical steps friends in determining what they hey and partner with Him for life and living…
In case nobody has told you lately – I love you.
Go look in the mirror and tell yourself you love you too..
Until soon and though you may not have a husband – and though you may not need help and though you may not have hormones making you crazy – you may have something else looming… Let Father show you and lead you into His love and kindness as you figure it out with Him. New Day – New Strategy.
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Grace is the Way.
I hate dribble.
I’m not good at small talk.
You can be in my house with the lights on and wonder if I’m even home.
I’m also the friend who shares deep within five minutes of meeting you and you will either run the hell away from me or decide I’m the friend you have always wanted and stick around.
I experience most of the first option.
That’s okay. Authenticity is not common. I’m not common.
My friends are few.
I’m not popular.
I used to be super religious in my stance giving God no chance other than to do life my way.
Also, I made the mistake early on in my walk with God to give my life to building up the church and upholding what the pastor taught and again giving no leeway for God to live outside the church cause you know… God isn’t interested in you unless you’re a Christian.
Wow. I was clueless and limited my belief to my own wisdom instead of His.
I have changed.
My circle is small but my God is big and though God can dribble with the best of them …I still cannot..
Maybe you can do small talk and nobody knows your pain cause you keep that happy fake smile on your face …
So, though i hate dribble – I don’t hate you and I don’t want you to hate you either. So, how about this? You choose to NOT give up on you… cause I’m not gonna stop believing in you … ever.
Deep stuff. I know a woman whose mind is not quite there. Somehow, someway though … she can worry. She can grab a hold of one subject and she can think about it and think about it and think about it until she can’t think about nothing else. Obsessing.
In this manner, she feels important. Why? It literally gives her something to do with her time other than read and watch TV. She’s an older person who doesn’t have anything to do. She used to be vibrant and participated in society and she used to feel meaningful and significant. Now she only feels old and decrepit. The other day she said she missed feeling productive. She missed feeling as if she mattered. Deep stuff.
It dawned on me that the reason she worries is because it gives her something that she feels is important to do. She misses accomplishing something that someone else praises her in or someone else needs done so that they can finish what they are doing… She misses working…fulfilling goals and wins. She worries about her family. She worries about America. She worries about money. The other day she was fixated on finding a book. She did not want to read these books out of order. It is a trilogy. She had already read number one but did not want to skip to number three. She wanted to read number two next. Because of her memory issues, you might want her to just read three and find two later – what does it really matter? Deep stuff.
But it matters to her. It’s her grasping onto a little bit of order- a sequence – similar to a child learning the numbering or lettering system – she’s remembering order. You teach a child one, two, three – not one, four, seven. She is enough with it in her mind sometimes that she remembers order and she remembers pieces of things that really do matter… At least to her. in that moment … Admittedly that ship may sail soon but right that second she felt “normal” and like she is accomplishing something that “matters”. Deep stuff.
I was thinking about children and how they feel safe when they know what is next…when they have order. They learn the “how to” set goals, accomplish vision, eat their vegetables, brush their teeth, sleep habit, reading habits – disciplines…early in life… setting the stage for how they grow and think.
Similarly, older ones who lived vibrant productive lives that have health issues sometimes find themselves doing nothing but watching tv, eating and reading. Their minds lose the ability of setting goals, accomplishing vision. They lose that part of themselves where found identity and usefulness. Deep stuff.
What is my point? Pay attention.
Pay attention to that person in front of you that seemingly has nothing to do. Because they might be doing something with your mind to help you see something through. Now I realize that worry is worship in a reversed kind of way. But I just wonder if God‘s graciousness and kindness sees it as prayer in his day. Again, deep stuff.
We can’t heal her mind though we would like to. We can only love her – We can’t change what has occurred. Loving that person who seems to have lost their way might be the most productive thing you do today.
So, I was pondering these things today about society as a whole…thinking of another friend who is in a similar way. Sitting. Waiting. Nothing to do. Nobody to talk to. Watching life pass her by. Grabbing hold of anything that makes her feel alive.
Growing older is not for wimps. But … Older people are just younger people with wrinkles.
In this Covid crisis aftermath, remember those who were locked away. Maybe that was you or me. Maybe you are still working out your life in isolation. Maybe nobody reaches into you because they are busy accomplishing their own life…
Inside – deep inside – listen close to Who resides. They can lead you with Grace to love that space. Deep Stuff.