Life can be a journey but for most my life it was a destination. It’s only been the past 10 years or so when I decided to explore a new me. The other me was afraid to disappoint anyone but especially those in authority. I felt I had no option than to obey even without relationship. This area ruled my being. Unable to say no was how I handled my inner and outer world. I was indecisive, unstable and unable to be happy with myself. This has changed though it took what seems like a century. I’m not as fearful. I do not feel like I’m a failure. I have not ditched authority – I just now realize I’m in authority too. This means I have input for my own situations. This was critical to step into.
Interestingly today is my 17th wedding anniversary. I’ve had a lot of changes take place over the last almost 20 years. It’s been an adventure!
Be encouraged to continue taking the steps toward knowing yourself. You are worth it and in the process you might find a different you- a Brave new you. You may find yourself learning new skills and becoming a better you. A different path. The same path. A new respect. A change in career. Giving more. Living more. Loving more. Not everyone will like or embrace your change. Not everyone will desire your renovation. You have to decide. Some want to control you – not get to know you. Some see you as a project not a person to relate to. That’s okay. You do you. Embrace the different new you.
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Fearless is such a strong word but what if fearless is who you are? I look in the mirror and see a lifetime of fear, timidity, low self esteem, anguish, incompetence and worry. Honestly, it’s only been the last 10 years when I started to see a breakthrough in my thinking. Sometimes it takes a lifetime to discover that your weaknesses can be your greatest strengths. Feeling I deserved nothing was probably one of the strongest emotions I’ve faced. It’s strange I know. Many suffer from entitlement but mine was a lack of it. Both are equally unhealthy. Demanding it right now is no less dangerous than not caring at all if you ever “reach that …. you fill in the blank.” Some ask why I’m ‘in business’ now or how can I charge for helping people get well mentally and emotionally? Fascinating that they will pay someone else for less change than what I offer. It’s interesting that their context is almost offense as if I have no business charging money for my skillset development. But others do? It took years to unpack the respect for myself so I felt charging anyone was righteous. In the mean time I was content with nothing because I felt I did not deserve more. Ministry sound so much more loving than business. Really? Fear blinds you from inheritance. Fear keeps you bound to lack. The lightbulb continued to go off as I witnessed less respect when I gave away my services versus charged for them. Rarely do people respect what is given to them. I did not see that before but now I get it. What’s this got to do with fearless? I did not charge because I did not love myself enough to feel worthy enough to deserve being paid. Such a fearfully twisted identity. For years I attracted people to me who also felt no worth and therefore were also content with nothing. You won’t pay your bills, feed yourself or your family or have any way to help others when you have nothing. Listen- Bravely love yourself today. Not because you deserve it right this minute but because love is who you really are and it’s love that pushes fear out your door.
Loving yourself will change you, your bloodline and spheres of influence.
When you love you – you can share love with the ones around you. Love- d
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I call it the process of progress. Many people wonder if they are taking three steps forward and two steps back. I find perspective is everything. You may feel stuck like a hamster in a wheel of sabotage, sickness or death filled thoughts. When properly identified, you can have most cycles broken and your heart rewired. It can happen in a moment. I have found most the time, you get to renovate your mind one moment at a time. You get to make a lot of new little decisions that take you over time into a brave new you. The beauty of time lapse is the maturity in the processing of progress. I work with people overtime to unlock the why behind the what so they can recognize it when it knocks on their door in a different package. I help them remove what has caused them to remain in torment, turmoil and overwhelming stress and paralysis. It is a deep work. But it is a long lasting work. It takes patience and kindness to walk out life with people. Sometimes, I have a client that wants a quick trip to the store to get an answer. Most times the key to competency, security and loving yourself is to go deep so you can go far. It is not a drive through experience with a 99 cent menu. Many little decisions every day allow you to change the direction of your body, soul and spirit. I cannot overemphasize the power of the process of your progress. Do not forsake the process of progress. When choosing a different future, I want to encourage you not to allow yourself to regret. Regret is a powerful foe. It will bring you back into a hamster wheel. Sometimes, we unlock 50 years of living in a direction that unbeknownst to that person was not healthy. All of a sudden a lifetime passes before their eyes and they realize there is no gaining it back.
Do not focus on what was behind you.
With intention, take a step forward And mature in the process of your progress.
FATHER made you!! You are amazing and created in His image and HE is for you!!
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Not everyone will support you, love you or get you.
Not everyone will believe in you or want to be there for you.
WHAT WILL YOU DO?
When everyone walks out on you?
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Don’t be afraid to make a mistake. People who don’t make mistakes are in fear. Break off fear by stepping out with Him. He will give you a strategy and a plan and relationship and ideas and trust. And then you will make some more mistakes… And then you’ll make some more… And then you will change your mind and you will try to not make so many mistakes… And then you might make more mistakes.. Remember, you’re important and you are valuable. God will not leave you or forsake you because of mistakes. He lives through you. He might even hang out as you make mistakes… LOL. Of course he is there with you when you make mistakes. He doesn’t step out of you when you screw up… He’s right there with you… Because he is the one who never leaves you or forsakes you. Don’t be so disappointed with your error that you’re afraid to step out and make some more mistakes. Go for it… Watch a God’s House faithfulness blow your mind as you step out and find out just how imperfect you really are but how perfect he is. How faithful he is… When you are clueless… How good he is… When you are confused… Just continue to go for it. Respect yourself enough to make some more mistakes.
Respect God enough to trust him when you make mistakes.
Love love, d
Perspective. Are you being punished or polished? Life sometimes takes twists and turns and you just wonder what on earth is happening. If judgement took place at the cross, then punishment is satisfied. If punishment is satisfied then what’s left? Maybe we get polished? Love-d
A couple of years ago I wanted to move my writing into a new level. I went from a self #publishing platform to a world wide platform and I’ve not regretted it. If you would like to take your #books from the bookshelf to the world – and become the light in someone’s darkness – click on the picture and check out the steps I took…
Blessings to you!!