More than a Word

Faith.

It’s more than a word.

Trust.

It’s more than an action.

You don’t know until it’s you…

Facing your body’s need for..

A kidney, liver, brain stem.

You don’t know til it’s you faced with

cancer, ataxia, tumor, Parkinsons.

You don’t know til you’re the one whose spouse, child, sibling or parent died –

In your arms, on your watch, in your home, in your classroom, on your property.

Yes, you may understand. You may feel you believe.

But understanding and knowing are not the same.

The other day I understood from an X-ray that I had a calcified bone spur that needed attention. Then, I was treated for it and know by experience (through the most excruciating pain I’ve ever felt in my life) that I had a calcified bone that needed attention. After weeping, crying, yelling, weeping again…I KNOW it’s an issue.

I’ve prayed, commanded, imagined, meditated, and levitated (not really) in faith, trust and authority. Not restored.

So, I took action steps to address it. Wow. I did not know I could withstand that kind of pain. Had no idea I could or would endure.

I left thanking God for a pain filled arm as I thought of a precious woman who literally has one arm due to a flesh eating bacteria that attached her other one. You just don’t know til you know…

You and I may understand with the head but are out hearts far away?

I’m learning to pause before I presume to truly know what pain, heart ache, confusion, loneliness, insecurity, or feelings of shut down another has. I’m learning to look around and find someone else who wants to be noticed, understood, listened to, acknowledged, remembered…LOVED…

I encourage you to receive fresh compassion for the hurting which might even include your pain.

Not empathy. Not sympathy. These are weak fleshly tools.

Compassion is powerful. It is a strong supernatural super power!!

Compassion is Love & kindness.

Time is priceless.

Your presence is valid. You’re important. You’re significant. You matter.

I encourage you to pause and look yourself in the eye. Then look that other person in the eye. You may feel pain you cannot resolve. You may see wisdom from suffering. You may even see God looking back at you. What will you say in response?

I encourage you not to presume that the person who no longer comes around to see you is lazy or busy. Maybe they too are passing through unspoken issues, pain.

At the end of the day, most are doing the best we can.

So, instead of deciding to discount that person whom you think should get it together …

or … condemn that person you think should know better …

or … talk down to that person whose worth is in the toilet without your reminder …

Or … forget the compassion you want if you ever have to walk in their shoes …

Or feel you have zero worth because you’re alone… so you make certain you’re not…

Remember, that hate – that low self esteem – that yucky feeling – you feel is only hurting yourself…your atmosphere.

So, let it go.

One more time.

Again. Learning. Soooooo much to learn about being present. Noticed. Unnoticed. I’ve been crying more. Listening. Realizing. Valued. Weak yet strong. I’m seeing my errors. I’m not feeling condemned but I’m seeing my own issues. Forgive me those who know me personally for not being present when present. Forgive me those who have felt condemned online.

When I was a kid I had a big mouth.

I talked wayyyy too much to cover it up.

I hated myself. I was filled with strife.

It’s took me years to forgive my own hell.

Love was the answer as was His reply.

Receive your inheritance of life.

From your spirit alive in Christ.

Sow into the incorruptible seed of Love ..

From Those within not just above.

More than a word

Process of Progress

Donna Reiners, Lifecoach, Bravetobraver, donnareiners.com, author, Speaker, leadershipI call it the process of progress. Many people wonder if they are taking three steps forward and two steps back. I find perspective is everything. You may feel stuck like a hamster in a wheel of sabotage, sickness or death filled thoughts. When properly identified, you can have most cycles broken and your heart rewired. It can happen in a moment. I have found most the time, you get to renovate your mind one moment at a time. You get to make a lot of new little decisions that take you over time into a brave new you. The beauty of time lapse is the maturity in the processing of progress. I work with people overtime to unlock the why behind the what so they can recognize it when it knocks on their door in a different package. I help them remove what has caused them to remain in torment, turmoil and overwhelming stress and paralysis. It is a deep work. But it is a long lasting work. It takes patience and kindness to walk out life with people. Sometimes, I have a client that wants a quick trip to the store to get an answer. Most times the key to competency, security and loving yourself is to go deep so you can go far. It is not a drive through experience with a 99 cent menu. Many little decisions every day allow you to change the direction of your body, soul and spirit. I cannot overemphasize the power of the process of your progress. Do not forsake the process of progress. When choosing a different future, I want to encourage you not to allow yourself to regret. Regret is a powerful foe. It will bring you back into a hamster wheel. Sometimes, we unlock 50 years of living in a direction that unbeknownst to that person was not healthy. All of a sudden a lifetime passes before their eyes and they realize there is no gaining it back.

Do not focus on what was behind you.

With intention, take a step forward And mature in the process of your progress.

www.transformyouremotions.com

Someone who cares this new year

Be someone who cares this new year. Someone who gives. You do not have to be a “caregiver” to care giving. You can give where you are whether big or small. First let’s talk about big.

I know a woman who has loved deeply. She has held the hands of women and men as they live their last breath on planet earth. It was not as a hospice nurse or paid caregiver. She has cared enough to give her time, resources, affection and passion to see another live…and then die.

Some of these would have died far before their time. She has valued them when they had no value. She has treasured them when they felt they were trash. She has been their companion when they would have died from loneliness. She has cared enough to give.

In her own search for value and identity, she has preserved another’s value and identity.

She is deep water. In essence she has given her life for another. Her maturity came at a price and her love is now priceless.

Let’s talk about small. But is any action of giving really small to God? Giving soup to the woman next-door who has been sick and cannot feed her family. Cleaning the yard of the elderly couple down the road because they just can’t seem to have the strength to do it anymore. Telling the mom who you can tell is about to lose her temper with her children that she is doing a good job… Because she thinks any minute she’s gonna lose her mind. Loving the person you are with even though they are depressed and don’t seem to like you anymore. Loving them with no expectation of anything back just because you know they are lonely and I need a validation and friendship. Valuing them. Valuing you. Valuing life on the planet. Loving the person you are with even though they are depressed and don’t seem to like you anymore. Loving them with no expectation of anything back just because you know they are lonely and need validation and friendship. Valuing them. Valuing you. Valuing life on the planet. Loving yourself when you look in the mirror instead of turning away with disgust at how you no longer like the way you look.

Let this new year Be your opportunity to find a value in you and those around you. In small ways or in big ways. Love is the answer. You have permission to give a care about you. And then you have permission to give a care for those around you with that same kindness.

Happy New Year dear one.

Love- d

There was a time…

IF you can relate – type I GET IT! There was a time many years ago when I would not sleep for #fear I would wake up dead.

There was a time many years ago when I blamed #sickness on disease. There was a time many years ago when I refused relationships for fear they would die and leave me alone.

There was a time many years ago when I agreed with doctors who said I would not live past 30.

There was a time many years ago when I agreed I would die like my mom.

There was a time many years ago when I felt you would not love me if you really got to ‘see’ me.

There was a time when I thought I would disappear into depression.

There was a time when I gave up and wanted to die.

There was a time…

There was a time…

There was a time…

But God.

I said, “But God.”

Yes, it sometimes required a #fight.

Yes, it sometimes required my will overriding overwhelming #emotions filled with #darkness and #despair.

Yes, it required me contending for life I could not yet see.

But God.

I said, “But God.”

So, my #friend if you have read until the end, I want you to know that overcoming that which wants to overcome you is worth it.

Knowing That One Who overcame the world and lives inside of you and lives inside of me is worth it.

And I’d do it again.

You – don’t you give up and don’t you turn back and don’t you give in to those #death filled thoughts and ideas. Choose life because Life chose you and you were and are worth choosing. But #God. I GET IT!! Share so that someone struggling about ‘there was a time’ will choose life. #REPOST Love-d

#coach #life #lifecoach #lifeisbeautiful #live #anxiety #mentalhealth #mental #health #christian #jesus #writer #author #church You are loved – Donna Reiners

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Scars run deep

Braver Saturday -Time may heal but scars run deep. I know a family. The woman told God that their relationship was going on the back burner. That she would pick up her relationship with Him later. The results? Marriage ripped apart. Families and friends ripped apart. Divorce. Is it all fine now? Sure. Time may heal but scars run deep. Sometimes wrecking your own and other people’s lives is avoidable. If we just listen and obey. Be righteous even when it hurts. Even when you are so deep into it that you feel there is no way out. Cry out to Father. He has the solutions. HE has not left you. If you are in rebellion and you still hear His voice then I encourage you to not take advantage of the grace but tune into His righteousness and let him lead you. Who knows? Maybe He has a different or better plan? A byproduct of relationship with Father is you want to please Him. In this place called Grace, is there still obedience? Did Jesus obey so that we did not have to??? Is that really the grace Father has for His children? To do the wrong thing on purpose is still called rebellion even in grace. Kinda like a little kid who is asked to make their bed by their parents. Perhaps disobedience is at times just immaturity? Father has no condemnation but He does have correction that brings direction. Thoughts? Love-d #moms #marriage #church #jesus #death #life #professional #fit #blogger #faith #blog #instablog

Great love

Braver Saturday

Love the one you are with by looking them in the eye, hugging them, listening and responding to them. Be mindful. It worth it. Love-d

Be Braver

BRAVE Wednesday – So in this busy world we live in with our lives inundated 24/7 with business, busyness, social media distractions….face it…most of us spend more time on a computer or our phone than we do actually interacting with live human beings. In this place of computer land, have you noticed how our hearts can grow insensitive to the needs of others – even those closest to us? Slowly personal bravery to know ourselves and others is eroded by the replacement of humanity through a cold mechanical device.

Seriously. I’m sure this may not be for everyone but I’m sure there are some whose kids want your attention but you are at your computer. There are some whose partners would love to have actual time with you one on one without you looking at your phone – all of these “needs” to be on the computer to make us satisfied….our hearts are growing just a little bit colder and colder…and I LOVE MY MAC… 

Today. Be brave. Be wise.  Put it down. Retrain your soul to live by the Spirit instead of your 5 senses….

Forgiven

BRAVER Wednesday- 

I’m over 50 now and this means I have lived longer than I have left on the planet. When I was 17/18 years old my mom died at the age of 57. YOUNG. Her premature death haunted me for many years…for years I would stay up all night just because I had a fear of going to sleep and not waking up at all….talk about a sick point of view….I had it. At the same time however her death also impacted me positively. I see life precious. I see life short. I see relationships precious. I know when someone treats me poorly it is because they have been treated poorly. I’ve learned (over time) to understand that most of us truly mean to do good….but we many times fall short because of our own personal issues. In other words – if you don’t like me – it may not be about me. Encourage you today to be brave and consider the thoughts in your head that lead you to dislike you OR others. Have mercy for you and those around you. Bravely forgive before you need to forgive and then you will understand that you

Are

Already

Forgiven

And 

So are those who hurt you.

Until soon – d


Jesus gave His mom to a friend

Seriously. Jesus gave His mom to a friend.

Entrusted the Spn of God’s earth mom to a person He trusted. John lived longer than the others too. And he died of old age. He honored Jesus and Jesus honored him with His precious mom.

We are family.

Love yourself.

Love somebody else.

#bebraver Be Love

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Start Swimming

BRAVER WEDNESDAY-Are you in a whirlwind? HE is the calm in a storm. Even if the boat is capsized, HE gives the strength to swim to shore. #Bebraver Start Swimming. Love-d