How do you personally get free from judgments if you always remind yourself and others of wronging or being wronged? It’s a choice.
Jesus wiped away all the wrong and being wronged. He chose.
Are we going to wipe away the memory of what He did on behalf of humanity? What happened to Him was atrocious.
So, His intention was forgiveness for all mankind.
Are we going to continue to hold unforgiveness for any and all mankind? Or receive what He did for all mankind’s wrongs including yours, mine and those who wronged our bloodlines? Choice.
If I continued to remind my family of their abuse (for the purpose to make sure they never do anything wrong to me again) how do you think that would go? They would feel condemned. Also, how would they ever forgive themselves? Had I held their wrongs against them…it would have held those same wrongs against myself. Choice.
I am not about to remove my family from my presence because they remind of how I was abused?
If I’m reminded of how I was abused, it is because I am still clinging to my wounds and I am unhealed in my heart.
What if I beat the hell out of my sisters for beating the hell out of me?
What if I hated their guts and wanted nothing to do with them because of how they treated me when I was a kid? Seriously. Think of the process of hatred and how it rules and reigns in the thought life…
It bears no good fruit whatsoever… it just causes more hate. Choice.
Forgiveness is a real experience. I know someone whom I unintentionally betrayed. When I saw it and received that Truth from God, I was able to eventually sort through the issues of the why and the what and then – well – then I talked with the man and the woman. Do you know what they said? Well, that explains why “such and which” won’t return my call. Then, they both without hesitation and with full honesty said, “I forgive you” and they actually meant it.
How do I know they meant it? They did not treat me any differently after I exposed myself and shared with them what happened. They literally hugged me, supported me, loved me, encouraged me and laughed as if – it never once impacted them – although it truly did in ways I probably still do not understand. They talked about flesh and how we all are learning and we all are changing and that I needed to move forward and not be tormented by it. This was several years ago and they still treat me the same. I’m still welcomed in their home and they still refer others to me and they still hug me and text me and acknowledge my presence in their lives. Forgiveness.
They had already forgiven before they were confronted with a need to forgive me or anyone else. They lived and live from a deep place.
They are mature. In that place of maturity, I experienced a deep healing inside me when they not only forgave in that moment of my confession but they continued to value me in the days and years that followed. They maintained relationship with me as if that incident had never happened. Forgiveness.
They are kingdom like no one I have ever known. They paved the way with an honesty from the cross nobody (but one man who has already passed) had ever demonstrated to me. I see them do this consistently with others as well. I was not their first rodeo nor will I be their final one.
This I know – as long as you have relationships with others you will experience being thrown under a bus, humiliated, not appreciated, not paid back, not thanked, not loved, not apologized to and not understood. Also, as long as you have relationships you will experience being loved, watched over, thanked, appreciated, valued, loved and forgiven.
As long as the kingdom is always sought first and as long as that kingdom is not about “me, myself and I” then this Christ Whom we believe and trust and desire to know will have His way and be glorified through you and me. Forgiveness is the King’s domain. It is a place where we are supposed to have dominion and we can only have that kind of dominion through experiencing and exercising His life here with ourselves and others.
I’m still so thankful for their example of living as Christ on the planet and not just “talking” about living as Christ on the planet. Forgiveness is an action Jesus took and it is one we too can take. Reconciliation and humility and transparency and love is found in relationship and it can be for the long haul for those who choose that road of Life.
Can you imagine treating someone as if they had never hurt you? Never betrayed you? Never talked poorly about you? Never abused you? Forgiveness.
For you who are formulating why you think this is not every case – I’m not saying go back to that man who beat the hell out of you. I’m not saying trust that woman who threw you out of that vehicle. I am not saying it is okay that man or woman committed or are committing adultery.
But, I am saying if we cannot acknowledge where we wrong or misunderstand others – if we cannot love that person as they never harmed us – then it is highly probable we have not forgiven them as Christ has already forgiven us. It is a strong indicator of a heart that is not loving fully or being loved fully in an area of life. These are the lessons in life I consider and chew on and work out with Him. HE is so faithful to let us be honest instead of pretending and HE is so faithful to confront us with honesty too. Pondering from the deep.. My friends if you are a deep well and want to write a book – check out this free training. I did this and have not regretted it! Just click on the link and let me know my friend!! https://vt226.isrefer.com/go/aaevtrng/donnareinersignited/
It’s like this. People are not always going to be there for you. They may trick and deceive you. They may even want you dead. BUT. BUT. You get to make your own choice. You have permission to live. Nobody controls you unless you let them. Nobody berates you unless you allow it. If you are filled with low self-esteem, self-hatred, self-harm and disrespect for you then you will attract others who want to push you down, cause you to hate you more and cause you to turn on yourself. BUT. BUT. If you think so little of you that you allow that to happen to you then YOU ARE THE ONE WHO NEEDS HEALING. Do you hear me? No. What they are doing is wrong…but equally wrong is what you are already doing to you. You can change. You have permission to live. You have permission to love yourself. Go #live life and learn how to #love you.
Listen guys. I am in New York and was caught in the middle of a myriad of men and women picketing against white supremacy (not for it) and holding signs for only one group of women- #blacklivesmatter (for it). We have a problem.
what makes anyone’s color better than another? You and I were both made inside a woman’s belly. ALL colors of humanity start out the same size my friend- the same size. What makes a black or white woman’s life LESS IMPORTANT or MORE IMPORTANT than an Asian or Native American woman OR any other woman on the planet? All lives matter yet we have a problem.
If you or I see the color of our skin as more or less significant than the color of someone else’s skin then … we have a problem. We are blinded by self and we will only see ourselves because we have forgotten.
It’s level as we are born the same – all the size of a grain of rice! Its level when we die and ALL our skin no matter what color goes bye bye. All that happens in between is part of our personal story. I know a man whose story blew me away. He believed in you and me. HE Himself created us in His own image. He lived on the planet as you and me. He died as you and me. He was buried as you and me. He was resurrected as you and me. But we have a problem. We have forgotten … that it was level at the foot of the cross and it was level in the resurrection and we were all there with Him through it all.
Love is all that’s matters now my friend and we each get to choose for ourselves. Lets quit the blame game and play the “we are the same” game. No longer do we have a problem because Love won …
Check out my video on how your life matters! My dander is up – share if you dare. Love- d
Most women become who they are told to become and then exist. Rarely do they question the status quo that has dictated their lives and so they fall far below any potential that challenges them to reach for the stars. #Fear, #performance, self hatred, failure and poverty become lifelong friends. I know this was me. But no more. I said no more. Be a star. Shine. Bright. LIVE. LIVE. LIVE! Become Who you decide. Share with a friend. It’s not too late to COpartner with #God for the ride of your Lifetime. SDEND TO A FRIEND. Love- Donna Reiners
Fearless Friday – to be the humble one who loves and does not condemn- to be BRAVE and actually speak words of love and kindness to that one who has fallen from grace. To treat them as you would prefer to be treated. Be love. Be patient. Be kind. Be the new you from the new covenant.
Yes. They are talking about you. Again. Fix your thoughts on Him. Somebody else ratted you out. Fill your thoughts with good. They passed you by on promotion day. Watch Him change your future. You just vented to somebody with more words than they needed. Praise Him. You have thoughts from a gutter. Press through with thoughts from heaven. You feel confused and forgotten. Govern your private world with his ideas. You are ALIVE. Let the spirit of your mind be inundated with heaven. Fill your business with Him. Fill thoughts for yourself with GOOD!! Fill your friendships with good. It may have started as a bad day, but you choose to triumph over evil with good. See you- out there where our thoughts become words. Let the words be from heaven! You are more than a conqueror! You are triumph!!