Category: Identity

Time Pressures

Posted on by Donna Reiners in Christian Living, Forgiveness, Identity, Life Lessons, Self Esteem

Fabulous article that you CAN relate to- Time Pressures by–Kathy Collard Miller

I have a hard time saying no! As a child, I didn’t want to hurt anybody’s feelings and wanted everyone’s approval. As a result, I was usually distressed out because I was trying to please everyone and didn’t have enough time or energy to be everything to everyone.

Since then I’ve learned a phrase that set me free: “a need is not necessarily a call.” I like to rephrase it as, “An opportunity is not necessarily God’s open door.” Just because I hear of a need doesn’t mean God is calling me to respond to it. I’d begun to put that idea into practice when I heard of a need: the reorganization of a church group whose leadership had all resigned. I went to the meeting but emotionally had to sit on my hands, for fear I’d raise them to volunteer for all sorts of things. But I didn’t think this was where my strengths would best be used so I kept telling myself, “God hasn’t called me to this.”

Evidently everyone else had heard of that same idea because no one volunteered for anything! Two weeks later, I heard of an opportunity that was exactly right for my talents and I became involved. I was so glad I hadn’t volunteered at the previous meeting because I would have been distressed trying to fulfill both. Later I heard that a group of volunteers had stepped forward to carry on the work of the first group, even though they hadn’t been at the reorganization meeting.

I learned that God can guide me and provide all the time He wants me to have as I obey Him.

http://kathycollardmiller.com

Keep shining my friends!! Until soon and many Blessings friends!!

Show them the door

Posted on by Donna Reiners in abuse, Identity, Self Help, Suicide

When you feel as if you are losing your mind, stop to recalibrate before you fall to the floor.

Defeat, discouragement, dismay & depression are not your friends.

Show them the door.

Do not be distracted by their visit.

Just refocus after their departure.

Let the imprint of the bottom of your shoe be their next tattoo.

Blessings-Donna Reiners

You are alive

Posted on by Donna Reiners in abuse, Betrayal, christianity, Death, Forgiveness, Identity, Tenacity

I was born two months early at 5 pounds. I stayed in an incubator for two months waiting the time for me to be strong enough to go home and be with my mom.

I got to be hooked up to all sorts of life support almost 57 years ago. Tubes crawled in and out of lots of areas in my body while my body finished developing at Fort Campbell Kentucky Army Base hospital.

For the first two months of my life outside the womb, the nurses and doctors were my parents. They made all my decisions, cleaned me and fed me and monitored me to make sure I would not die. Back then, your mom wasn’t at the hospital very day to check on you and it was not possible to hold me… Affection was later.

This is what I know: I would not be writing this nor you reading this had someone snipped my neck or decided I was not worthy to live…or been so convinced I was just a ‘fetus’ and separated themselves from me being a human being…

If you are reading this then high chance your neck wasn’t snipped either.

You are alive my friend… a special treasure and you have something to be thankful about…

Share this my friend.

Make a Memory

Posted on by Donna Reiners in christianity, Emotions, Forgiveness, Healing of the heart, Health, Identity, Motivation, Perception, Personal Growth, Suicide

Wow. We are out to eat and lo and behold I see the longing to make a memory on Eighties Band Night at Mo’s Irish Pub.

As I watch women flood the floor to dance with each other, my heart understands their loneliness AND their desire to simple to have some fun. Sadly, I saw spouses turn their wives down to dance due to what? Lack of security? Embarrassment? Unwillingness to be seen with her or them? An opportunity to make a memory cane and went..

Hey!! Make memories. Don’t be bound by fear of man, need for approval or feeling not good enough.

Enjoy you. If married – enjoy your spouse. Get over it friend! Love the one who leads you to be uncomfortable and free… Dance. Sing. Love. Laugh. Remember to make a memory…

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Simmer time

Posted on by Donna Reiners in Healing of the heart, Identity, love

SIMMER TIME. Are you tired of being on the back of the stove? Have you been waiting for someone else to give you permission to live? It’s time. You’re ready. Take off your own lid. Taste your own soup. Add some salt if you need it. Get off the fearful burner and get moving. Maybe you NEEDED to simmer a while. But now go burn for the world to see His goodness. Simmer time is over and it’s time to eat.

No longer that me

Posted on by Donna Reiners in #BeBraver, Bravery, Christian Living, christianity, Emotions, Forgiveness, Healing of the heart, Identity, Life Lessons

August has come and is almost gone and saying goodbye to the old me til I’m no longer that me is still in progress. Less than half the year remains to live. I sense change. But then change is every day isn’t it? I sense a stepping forward. But then every day is that day too.

Some need the motivation of a gentle tog, strong urge, raised voice or hit on the head to step onward. I want to be unafraid of obeying The One Who wants me prepared. I want to be free from sabotage. But how?

I encourage you today to take one step today to make room for something new. An exercise, cleaning a drawer, giving away clothes, revamping the garage or attic are all action steps help you say goodbye to an old you.

If I’m not going to use it maybe it’s time to lose it. My mini project today is to go through a box of old journals all the way to 1993. I began to write out my life as a new follower of Christ and honestly I’m no longer the person in those pages. Time to say goodbye. Maybe this step will free me from more of me – but even if it’s just giving me an empty container – it will be worth it. What’s this got to do with sabotage? My junk is always in my way. I ignore it and then Im entangled with it when deep inside I DO know what to do. I just don’t do it. My mind gets jumbled with so much and I’m overwhelmed with it … because I won’t do that one thing. After a while a thousand one things sabotage my next step and I’m enslaved…trapped..by me and my refusal to just do that one thing.

Interestingly that August is the 8th month and eight means means a cutting away. Many think it means a new day. But really… It is the cutting a way that brings the newness.

I’ve been contemplating for a month or so on what comes out of my mouth. I believe I need to prune my words. My mouth is my greatest place of sabotage. It will have to be a conscious effort to create a new culture. Everywhere we turn, people complain. We complain about what we eat, who said what, how we are treated, what the news says, how we look, how someone else behaves, what we wear, the weather, the president, the preacher, this country, that company. It’s easy to get wrapped up and sucked into your own or your neighbors opinion/words.

We fill ourselves with negativity while using excuses like venting, praying, or processing. Yet what is it really? We lack self control while exercising our freedom to be free.

I’m not sure my own opinion warrants words anymore. I seem to sabotage my own life as soon as I have a new one. My mouth.

What about you? Do you have a negative perspective about yourself that dominates you?

How about joining me in an all out fast from complaining? From complaining to celebrating. This is the intention. Let me know if you want to grow?? If so, gossip and complaining about you and others has to go.

Fast from complaining about you and those with you. Think of create ways to correct yourself and those with you. I’ve started and I’m having to literally start by shutting up because when I realize how it was gonna come out of my mouth???????…. I realized I’m a big problem. I can’t stop those around me from their negative talk about them or me. But it’s like God nudged me and showered me with Love and showed me a new path. I can see how if I will lead the way- over time I’ll get it. If I will respond with kindness when someone criticizes me then it will diffuse what could turn ugly if I got offended by them.

I’m not sure I even know how to be a complain free person. But I’m starting today to clean up my mouth while on the way to clean out a container. Maybe there will be a correlation? Unsure. I just know my mouth is powerful and it can be used for building up or tearing down. I caught myself tearing down late last night through emotions that should have been reigned in.

Sabotage is not my friend. Venting is not my friend. Making a point is not my friend. Having the last word? Not my friend.

Celebration is my friend. It must be intentional or it won’t happen.

Jesus had the last word. Well He had a couple- Forgive them and It is finished. So, I’m forgiven and the ones with me are forgiven. I’m gonna lean into being forgiven and forgiving and lean into what’s been finished so I can finish..

Until soon and much love… I’m going to have a cup of coffee and celebrate a new beginning. Then, Im going to drink some water. Then?? I’m headed out to get ONE container to empty…that hopefully will lead to some more. Granted my house is going to want food so as soon as I’m in a groove I’ll need to stop for a fueling. This is not sabotage. This is love. For me. For them.

Slowly I’m learning to see me as Christ sees me. The clincher is to see others as Christ sees them – that’s the mark of change. I have failed in this arena. But today is still my new day as I learn to say goodbye to an old me and I learn to embrace a new me…on my way to celebrate the me who has yet to be on my way to the container filled with what is no longer me…

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The only you!

Posted on by Donna Reiners in business, Identity, Life Lessons

You are the only you. At work, home, play. In family, friends and yes…even enemies. And it’s not decided what you would look like or year from now. But be who you are today while you are on the way to where you’re going. Let yourself make mistakes. Let yourself have wins. Let yourself fail. Let yourself succeed. Let yourself live. Let yourself learn. Exercise those muscles. Change. Give yourself permission to become who you want to become. Give yourself permission to be courageous. Give yourself permission to love that person with you as if their life depends on it. Give yourself permission to love yourself as if your life depends on it. Love. Live. Learn. Repeat.

God made you creative. Be willing to make mistakes and explore your creativity and express who you think you even want to become…

If you are an angry person… Practice being nice. Practice being kind if you are selfish… Practice being at peace if you are always frantic and worried. Practice being quiet if you are always talking. Practice talking if you are always quiet. It’s not performance… His practice… And this is how we all learn. Live. Learn. Love. Repeat. And then do it again. Practice being in charge is if you are afraid to lead. Practice serving if you are afraid to serve or you’re always leading and always in charge. Practice. Practice makes permanent. Make some mistakes and have mercy on those around you who make mistakes. Just keep on living and keep on loving and keep on rockin by being the only you. Until soon…

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No premature end

Posted on by Donna Reiners in abuse, author, Christian Living, christianity, Chronic pain, Death, Forgiveness, God's Love, Healing of the heart, Health, Hope, Identity, Life Lessons, Moms, Mourning, Personal Bravery, Personal Growth, Prayer, Restoration, Self Esteem

You don’t know how your #story ends so don’t end it prematurely. #coach #life #business #women #author #ISC19

 

A little lie

Posted on by Donna Reiners in christianity, Death, Fear, Forgiveness, Healing of the heart, Identity

Compromise is a powerful and subtle method used to lead us away from Truth within us and around us. Lies will separate you from those who love you, pull you away from what is best for you, divide your heart, tear you apart, stress you out, leave you to rot. It will give you a false identity so real that you won’t see the counterfeit. Be willing to let God sift your thoughts back to Him and His ways. Trust Him with that issue, that relationship, those friends, that career, that food problem, drug addiction, those worries, that codependent friend, deep pain, sadness and loneliness. Let God bring you true identity and specific Truth. Let Him redesign your relationships and awaken your heart to Joy.

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Fuel from the Creator

Posted on by Donna Reiners in Christian Living, christianity, Forgiveness, Identity

When you pump more in than your tank holds… You know you’re bone dry. Sometimes we feel spiritually impotent yet God gets us where we need to go. Sometimes we feel abandoned and without hope for #change or not ready for anything in front of us yet God has us. Let’s remember that He is our source. He is our fuel. His fuel does not run out just because we feel a certain way. The Creator Who lives inside is greater than our feelings. #spirit #business #fitmoms #fitness #christian #woman #fuel