Fearless is such a strong word but what if fearless is who you are? I look in the mirror and see a lifetime of fear, timidity, low self esteem, anguish, incompetence and worry. Honestly, it’s only been the last 10 years when I started to see a breakthrough in my thinking. Sometimes it takes a lifetime to discover that your weaknesses can be your greatest strengths. Feeling I deserved nothing was probably one of the strongest emotions I’ve faced. It’s strange I know. Many suffer from entitlement but mine was a lack of it. Both are equally unhealthy. Demanding it right now is no less dangerous than not caring at all if you ever “reach that …. you fill in the blank.” Some ask why I’m ‘in business’ now or how can I charge for helping people get well mentally and emotionally? Fascinating that they will pay someone else for less change than what I offer. It’s interesting that their context is almost offense as if I have no business charging money for my skillset development. But others do? It took years to unpack the respect for myself so I felt charging anyone was righteous. In the mean time I was content with nothing because I felt I did not deserve more. Ministry sound so much more loving than business. Really? Fear blinds you from inheritance. Fear keeps you bound to lack. The lightbulb continued to go off as I witnessed less respect when I gave away my services versus charged for them. Rarely do people respect what is given to them. I did not see that before but now I get it. What’s this got to do with fearless? I did not charge because I did not love myself enough to feel worthy enough to deserve being paid. Such a fearfully twisted identity. For years I attracted people to me who also felt no worth and therefore were also content with nothing. You won’t pay your bills, feed yourself or your family or have any way to help others when you have nothing. Listen- Bravely love yourself today. Not because you deserve it right this minute but because love is who you really are and it’s love that pushes fear out your door.
Loving yourself will change you, your bloodline and spheres of influence.
When you love you – you can share love with the ones around you. Love- d
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I call it the process of progress. Many people wonder if they are taking three steps forward and two steps back. I find perspective is everything. You may feel stuck like a hamster in a wheel of sabotage, sickness or death filled thoughts. When properly identified, you can have most cycles broken and your heart rewired. It can happen in a moment. I have found most the time, you get to renovate your mind one moment at a time. You get to make a lot of new little decisions that take you over time into a brave new you. The beauty of time lapse is the maturity in the processing of progress. I work with people overtime to unlock the why behind the what so they can recognize it when it knocks on their door in a different package. I help them remove what has caused them to remain in torment, turmoil and overwhelming stress and paralysis. It is a deep work. But it is a long lasting work. It takes patience and kindness to walk out life with people. Sometimes, I have a client that wants a quick trip to the store to get an answer. Most times the key to competency, security and loving yourself is to go deep so you can go far. It is not a drive through experience with a 99 cent menu. Many little decisions every day allow you to change the direction of your body, soul and spirit. I cannot overemphasize the power of the process of your progress. Do not forsake the process of progress. When choosing a different future, I want to encourage you not to allow yourself to regret. Regret is a powerful foe. It will bring you back into a hamster wheel. Sometimes, we unlock 50 years of living in a direction that unbeknownst to that person was not healthy. All of a sudden a lifetime passes before their eyes and they realize there is no gaining it back.
Do not focus on what was behind you.
With intention, take a step forward And mature in the process of your progress.
You don’t know how your #story ends so don’t end it prematurely. #coach #life #business #women #author #ISC19
Most women become who they are told to become and then exist. Rarely do they question the status quo that has dictated their lives and so they fall far below any potential that challenges them to reach for the stars. #Fear, #performance, self hatred, failure and poverty become lifelong friends. I know this was me. But no more. I said no more. Be a star. Shine. Bright. LIVE. LIVE. LIVE! Become Who you decide. Share with a friend. It’s not too late to COpartner with #God for the ride of your Lifetime. SDEND TO A FRIEND. Love- Donna Reiners
Sometimes you just need to #run your own race. Maybe you’ve been in other people’s #races… #Running for them… Running with them… Running at their pace… So you don’t know your own pace. You don’t even know if you can run. You have no idea what you are made out of. Maybe it’s time to find out. You only lose when you quit.
Run now so you have less regrets later. Write that book. develop a new skill. Lead a new project. Start that business. Meet a new friend. Eat something new. Make your bed. Break up your routine. Take a risk. Like yourself. Love yourself. #winning means risking.
I’m not you. You are not me. We are different on purpose. The way we live, move and have our being will look different. We are not made from a cookie cutter. How we hear and how we see and how we approach life and we live it will be different. The process of relationship with Him, self and one another. I’m pondering our differences as a human race as I think about how He lives among us too. Setting my mind on things that are above and not on things that are on earth is a process for me personally. Learning to listen. Inclining my ear to hear His thoughts and ideas about Himself, others, myself and life. It’s been a lifelong process of relationship – leaning His way and then stopping to find Him leaning my way. I’m thankful for every moment He has granted me the honor of living, loving, being loved. It’s a journey into Him and into His continual mercy, forgiveness & grace. The journey includes the mistakes not just the successes. I love the way Paul talked about counting it all as loss just to know Him. He knew the journey. We are in union with the One Who does not condemn our wrong turns. Instead He draws us further into His definition of Love. He also doesn’t put so much emphasis on our right turns either because it’s not about the right or wrong when it is about relationship. Righteous is different many times than right. Deep inside my bones, it seems our emphasis is misguided. Love is the focus but what does that look like? I read a lot about Love. Yet, how we experience Love is a different matter. Experiencing the embrace He offers takes courage because His Love is unconditional and has no secret strings attached; it has no hidden agenda. HE already knows. Everything. Nothing is hidden from Him. Listening to Him. Listening to one another. Listening to what is said as well as what is not said. I remember listening to what my sister Mary Ann did not say. It held weight. It held depth. Loving to love. Being Loved. It’s an exchanged life. Just being. Loving. Being loved. Letting Him steer you personally as His hands, His feet and His heart in service in our private world as well as on the earth. Every person offers something different from Him and through Him while representing Him. I’m soooo thankful to Him for how He thinks outside the box to live as Love through us in our time here on the earth. What an interesting life. Sometimes I’m standing at a crossing wondering how to proceed. It’s a journey with Him. Sometimes I’m standing with a friend at their crossing while they wonder how to proceed. It’s not just you and not just me. It’s also with one another. It’s a journey into Him. It’s also a journey into one another. Being Loved by Him and Loving one another. I’m in awe of His miraculous kindness. To let us learn how to be while He leads us into becoming. Be patient with yourself. Be patient with Him. Be patient with others. Loving as well as being Loved is a process. Learning how to love and learning how to be loved is a process. It takes time. That’s ok. Working through the process IS part of the journey. The revelation of His complete unconditional love for us IS part of the journey. The revelation of His complete unconditional Love for one another through us is also part of the journey. It’s living in Him, with Him, through Him and as Him…what a journey. Love-d
I want to talk about the power of intention. Taking hold of your thoughts… Capturing your thoughts… It’s done intentionally. It is not a random act of kindness. It is an intentional action on the inside of you that captures an ill willed thought and stops it from moving out of you into the space of another human being. If you find yourself entertaining a thought or an idea or an out right curse toward another person… Stop and reconsider. Picture yourself snatching it up with your hands … and throwing it into a trashcan. Cancel that thought. Look at that thought in your mind and put a great big X Mark on top of it. Canceled. Denied. Reject that thought from living inside of you and cancel that thought from going after another person so that it lives inside of them. Intention is powerful. Let’s be intentionally kind toward ourselves and toward others. Love, d #christianity #prayer #splankna #selfhelp #bebraver
Until soon ,
Motivated Monday – I was quarantined with a mysterious fever and deep cough. My husband took me to Urgent Care where it was clear I was not in my right mind. Delirious it seemed. Quickly, the medical staff assessed my situation and gave me a breathing treatment. A long one. At first, I thought what is the purpose of this? I can breathe fine. Then, it was clear I wasn’t breathing fine. Pure oxygen was needed to bring me back into my right mind. My right mind.
My right mind.
What is that exactly?
What is my right mind?
When I left the Urgent Care facility, I was not feeling better physically, but my thoughts were clearer. My right mind came back through pure oxygen. Then, the oxygen moved through my body supplying much needed nutrients to my cells so that my body could fight the sickness.
And this is my thought process. My right mind is when I am in UNION with CHRIST WHO IS PURE OXYGEN. What is it to breathe pure oxygen? I think it is focusing on only Him Who in turn leads me into His will. Breathing pure oxygen is the only answer. Breathing Him in and breathing only Him out so that HE is all that is within me. I find this union when I lay aside all that lays on me to distract, to detour, to destroy me. The problem is that the clothes of distraction fit so well and the road to detour looks so fetching and the idea of destruction seems like such a term of grandeur for the likes of me.
So, there I was under a heavy blanket of yuck searching Him out for answers and solutions as to why I got sick and how to avoid it in the future.
But, HE brought it all back to HIMSELF and pure oxygen. And then, I brought it back to where I have allowed mixture to muddle up the purity of His oxygen and His calling in me.
What if the calling is so clear, so concise, so obvious and so narrow that you just cannot see it? Those were my thoughts as I peeled off another layer of distraction, detour and destruction.
Braver Saturday -Time may heal but scars run deep. I know a family. The woman told God that their relationship was going on the back burner. That she would pick up her relationship with Him later. The results? Marriage ripped apart. Families and friends ripped apart. Divorce. Is it all fine now? Sure. Time may heal but scars run deep. Sometimes wrecking your own and other people’s lives is avoidable. If we just listen and obey. Be righteous even when it hurts. Even when you are so deep into it that you feel there is no way out. Cry out to Father. He has the solutions. HE has not left you. If you are in rebellion and you still hear His voice then I encourage you to not take advantage of the grace but tune into His righteousness and let him lead you. Who knows? Maybe He has a different or better plan? A byproduct of relationship with Father is you want to please Him. In this place called Grace, is there still obedience? Did Jesus obey so that we did not have to??? Is that really the grace Father has for His children? To do the wrong thing on purpose is still called rebellion even in grace. Kinda like a little kid who is asked to make their bed by their parents. Perhaps disobedience is at times just immaturity? Father has no condemnation but He does have correction that brings direction. Thoughts? Love-d #moms #marriage #church #jesus #death #life #professional #fit #blogger #faith #blog #instablog
Braver Saturday – Do what you can – where you are – while waiting for the next open door. Love-d