No longer that me

August has come and is almost gone and saying goodbye to the old me til I’m no longer that me is still in progress. Less than half the year remains to live. I sense change. But then change is every day isn’t it? I sense a stepping forward. But then every day is that day too.

Some need the motivation of a gentle tog, strong urge, raised voice or hit on the head to step onward. I want to be unafraid of obeying The One Who wants me prepared. I want to be free from sabotage. But how?

I encourage you today to take one step today to make room for something new. An exercise, cleaning a drawer, giving away clothes, revamping the garage or attic are all action steps help you say goodbye to an old you.

If I’m not going to use it maybe it’s time to lose it. My mini project today is to go through a box of old journals all the way to 1993. I began to write out my life as a new follower of Christ and honestly I’m no longer the person in those pages. Time to say goodbye. Maybe this step will free me from more of me – but even if it’s just giving me an empty container – it will be worth it. What’s this got to do with sabotage? My junk is always in my way. I ignore it and then Im entangled with it when deep inside I DO know what to do. I just don’t do it. My mind gets jumbled with so much and I’m overwhelmed with it … because I won’t do that one thing. After a while a thousand one things sabotage my next step and I’m enslaved…trapped..by me and my refusal to just do that one thing.

Interestingly that August is the 8th month and eight means means a cutting away. Many think it means a new day. But really… It is the cutting a way that brings the newness.

I’ve been contemplating for a month or so on what comes out of my mouth. I believe I need to prune my words. My mouth is my greatest place of sabotage. It will have to be a conscious effort to create a new culture. Everywhere we turn, people complain. We complain about what we eat, who said what, how we are treated, what the news says, how we look, how someone else behaves, what we wear, the weather, the president, the preacher, this country, that company. It’s easy to get wrapped up and sucked into your own or your neighbors opinion/words.

We fill ourselves with negativity while using excuses like venting, praying, or processing. Yet what is it really? We lack self control while exercising our freedom to be free.

I’m not sure my own opinion warrants words anymore. I seem to sabotage my own life as soon as I have a new one. My mouth.

What about you? Do you have a negative perspective about yourself that dominates you?

How about joining me in an all out fast from complaining? From complaining to celebrating. This is the intention. Let me know if you want to grow?? If so, gossip and complaining about you and others has to go.

Fast from complaining about you and those with you. Think of create ways to correct yourself and those with you. I’ve started and I’m having to literally start by shutting up because when I realize how it was gonna come out of my mouth???????…. I realized I’m a big problem. I can’t stop those around me from their negative talk about them or me. But it’s like God nudged me and showered me with Love and showed me a new path. I can see how if I will lead the way- over time I’ll get it. If I will respond with kindness when someone criticizes me then it will diffuse what could turn ugly if I got offended by them.

I’m not sure I even know how to be a complain free person. But I’m starting today to clean up my mouth while on the way to clean out a container. Maybe there will be a correlation? Unsure. I just know my mouth is powerful and it can be used for building up or tearing down. I caught myself tearing down late last night through emotions that should have been reigned in.

Sabotage is not my friend. Venting is not my friend. Making a point is not my friend. Having the last word? Not my friend.

Celebration is my friend. It must be intentional or it won’t happen.

Jesus had the last word. Well He had a couple- Forgive them and It is finished. So, I’m forgiven and the ones with me are forgiven. I’m gonna lean into being forgiven and forgiving and lean into what’s been finished so I can finish..

Until soon and much love… I’m going to have a cup of coffee and celebrate a new beginning. Then, Im going to drink some water. Then?? I’m headed out to get ONE container to empty…that hopefully will lead to some more. Granted my house is going to want food so as soon as I’m in a groove I’ll need to stop for a fueling. This is not sabotage. This is love. For me. For them.

Slowly I’m learning to see me as Christ sees me. The clincher is to see others as Christ sees them – that’s the mark of change. I have failed in this arena. But today is still my new day as I learn to say goodbye to an old me and I learn to embrace a new me…on my way to celebrate the me who has yet to be on my way to the container filled with what is no longer me…

d

A different you

Life can be a journey but for most my life it was a destination. It’s only been the past 10 years or so when I decided to explore a new me. The other me was afraid to disappoint anyone but especially those in authority. I felt I had no option than to obey even without relationship. This area ruled my being. Unable to say no was how I handled my inner and outer world. I was indecisive, unstable and unable to be happy with myself. This has changed though it took what seems like a century. I’m not as fearful. I do not feel like I’m a failure. I have not ditched authority – I just now realize I’m in authority too. This means I have input for my own situations. This was critical to step into.

Interestingly today is my 17th wedding anniversary. I’ve had a lot of changes take place over the last almost 20 years. It’s been an adventure!

Be encouraged to continue taking the steps toward knowing yourself. You are worth it and in the process you might find a different you- a Brave new you. You may find yourself learning new skills and becoming a better you. A different path. The same path. A new respect. A change in career. Giving more. Living more. Loving more. Not everyone will like or embrace your change. Not everyone will desire your renovation. You have to decide. Some want to control you – not get to know you. Some see you as a project not a person to relate to. That’s okay. You do you. Embrace the different new you.

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Become a different you!

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The only you!

You are the only you. At work, home, play. In family, friends and yes…even enemies. And it’s not decided what you would look like or year from now. But be who you are today while you are on the way to where you’re going. Let yourself make mistakes. Let yourself have wins. Let yourself fail. Let yourself succeed. Let yourself live. Let yourself learn. Exercise those muscles. Change. Give yourself permission to become who you want to become. Give yourself permission to be courageous. Give yourself permission to love that person with you as if their life depends on it. Give yourself permission to love yourself as if your life depends on it. Love. Live. Learn. Repeat.

God made you creative. Be willing to make mistakes and explore your creativity and express who you think you even want to become…

If you are an angry person… Practice being nice. Practice being kind if you are selfish… Practice being at peace if you are always frantic and worried. Practice being quiet if you are always talking. Practice talking if you are always quiet. It’s not performance… His practice… And this is how we all learn. Live. Learn. Love. Repeat. And then do it again. Practice being in charge is if you are afraid to lead. Practice serving if you are afraid to serve or you’re always leading and always in charge. Practice. Practice makes permanent. Make some mistakes and have mercy on those around you who make mistakes. Just keep on living and keep on loving and keep on rockin by being the only you. Until soon…

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Fearless is who you are

Fearless is such a strong word but what if fearless is who you are? I look in the mirror and see a lifetime of fear, timidity, low self esteem, anguish, incompetence and worry. Honestly, it’s only been the last 10 years when I started to see a breakthrough in my thinking. Sometimes it takes a lifetime to discover that your weaknesses can be your greatest strengths. Feeling I deserved nothing was probably one of the strongest emotions I’ve faced. It’s strange I know. Many suffer from entitlement but mine was a lack of it. Both are equally unhealthy. Demanding it right now is no less dangerous than not caring at all if you ever “reach that …. you fill in the blank.” Some ask why I’m ‘in business’ now or how can I charge for helping people get well mentally and emotionally? Fascinating that they will pay someone else for less change than what I offer. It’s interesting that their context is almost offense as if I have no business charging money for my skillset development. But others do? It took years to unpack the respect for myself so I felt charging anyone was righteous. In the mean time I was content with nothing because I felt I did not deserve more. Ministry sound so much more loving than business. Really? Fear blinds you from inheritance. Fear keeps you bound to lack. The lightbulb continued to go off as I witnessed less respect when I gave away my services versus charged for them. Rarely do people respect what is given to them. I did not see that before but now I get it. What’s this got to do with fearless? I did not charge because I did not love myself enough to feel worthy enough to deserve being paid. Such a fearfully twisted identity. For years I attracted people to me who also felt no worth and therefore were also content with nothing. You won’t pay your bills, feed yourself or your family or have any way to help others when you have nothing. Listen- Bravely love yourself today. Not because you deserve it right this minute but because love is who you really are and it’s love that pushes fear out your door.

Loving yourself will change you, your bloodline and spheres of influence.

When you love you – you can share love with the ones around you. Love- d

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Process of Progress

Donna Reiners, Lifecoach, Bravetobraver, donnareiners.com, author, Speaker, leadershipI call it the process of progress. Many people wonder if they are taking three steps forward and two steps back. I find perspective is everything. You may feel stuck like a hamster in a wheel of sabotage, sickness or death filled thoughts. When properly identified, you can have most cycles broken and your heart rewired. It can happen in a moment. I have found most the time, you get to renovate your mind one moment at a time. You get to make a lot of new little decisions that take you over time into a brave new you. The beauty of time lapse is the maturity in the processing of progress. I work with people overtime to unlock the why behind the what so they can recognize it when it knocks on their door in a different package. I help them remove what has caused them to remain in torment, turmoil and overwhelming stress and paralysis. It is a deep work. But it is a long lasting work. It takes patience and kindness to walk out life with people. Sometimes, I have a client that wants a quick trip to the store to get an answer. Most times the key to competency, security and loving yourself is to go deep so you can go far. It is not a drive through experience with a 99 cent menu. Many little decisions every day allow you to change the direction of your body, soul and spirit. I cannot overemphasize the power of the process of your progress. Do not forsake the process of progress. When choosing a different future, I want to encourage you not to allow yourself to regret. Regret is a powerful foe. It will bring you back into a hamster wheel. Sometimes, we unlock 50 years of living in a direction that unbeknownst to that person was not healthy. All of a sudden a lifetime passes before their eyes and they realize there is no gaining it back.

Do not focus on what was behind you.

With intention, take a step forward And mature in the process of your progress.

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No premature end

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Become Who You Decide

Most women become who they are told to become and then exist. Rarely do they question the status quo that has dictated their lives and so they fall far below any potential that challenges them to reach for the stars. #Fear, #performance, self hatred, failure and poverty become lifelong friends. I know this was me. But no more. I said no more. Be a star. Shine. Bright. LIVE. LIVE. LIVE! Become Who you decide. Share with a friend. It’s not too late to COpartner with #God for the ride of your Lifetime. SDEND TO A FRIEND. Love- Donna Reiners

Run Your Pace!

Sometimes you just need to #run your own race. Maybe you’ve been in other people’s #races… #Running for them… Running with them… Running at their pace… So you don’t know your own pace. You don’t even know if you can run. You have no idea what you are made out of. Maybe it’s time to find out. You only lose when you quit.

Run now so you have less regrets later. Write that book. develop a new skill. Lead a new project. Start that business. Meet a new friend. Eat something new. Make your bed. Break up your routine. Take a risk. Like yourself. Love yourself. #winning means risking.

A long thought…

I’m not you. You are not me. We are different on purpose. The way we live, move and have our being will look different. We are not made from a cookie cutter. How we hear and how we see and how we approach life and we live it will be different. The process of relationship with Him, self and one another. I’m pondering our differences as a human race as I think about how He lives among us too. Setting my mind on things that are above and not on things that are on earth is a process for me personally. Learning to listen. Inclining my ear to hear His thoughts and ideas about Himself, others, myself and life. It’s been a lifelong process of relationship – leaning His way and then stopping to find Him leaning my way. I’m thankful for every moment He has granted me the honor of living, loving, being loved. It’s a journey into Him and into His continual mercy, forgiveness & grace. The journey includes the mistakes not just the successes. I love the way Paul talked about counting it all as loss just to know Him. He knew the journey. We are in union with the One Who does not condemn our wrong turns. Instead He draws us further into His definition of Love. He also doesn’t put so much emphasis on our right turns either because it’s not about the right or wrong when it is about relationship. Righteous is different many times than right. Deep inside my bones, it seems our emphasis is misguided. Love is the focus but what does that look like? I read a lot about Love. Yet, how we experience Love is a different matter. Experiencing the embrace He offers takes courage because His Love is unconditional and has no secret strings attached; it has no hidden agenda. HE already knows. Everything. Nothing is hidden from Him. Listening to Him. Listening to one another. Listening to what is said as well as what is not said. I remember listening to what my sister Mary Ann did not say. It held weight. It held depth. Loving to love. Being Loved. It’s an exchanged life. Just being. Loving. Being loved. Letting Him steer you personally as His hands, His feet and His heart in service in our private world as well as on the earth. Every person offers something different from Him and through Him while representing Him. I’m soooo thankful to Him for how He thinks outside the box to live as Love through us in our time here on the earth. What an interesting life. Sometimes I’m standing at a crossing wondering how to proceed. It’s a journey with Him. Sometimes I’m standing with a friend at their crossing while they wonder how to proceed. It’s not just you and not just me. It’s also with one another. It’s a journey into Him. It’s also a journey into one another. Being Loved by Him and Loving one another. I’m in awe of His miraculous kindness. To let us learn how to be while He leads us into becoming. Be patient with yourself. Be patient with Him. Be patient with others. Loving as well as being Loved is a process. Learning how to love and learning how to be loved is a process. It takes time. That’s ok. Working through the process IS part of the journey. The revelation of His complete unconditional love for us IS part of the journey. The revelation of His complete unconditional Love for one another through us is also part of the journey. It’s living in Him, with Him, through Him and as Him…what a journey. Love-d 

Power of Intention

I want to talk about the power of intention. Taking hold of your thoughts… Capturing your thoughts… It’s done intentionally. It is not a random act of kindness. It is an intentional action on the inside of you that captures an ill willed thought and stops it from moving out of you into the space of another human being. If you find yourself entertaining a thought or an idea or an out right curse toward another person… Stop and reconsider. Picture yourself snatching it up with your hands … and throwing it into a trashcan. Cancel that thought. Look at that thought in your mind and put a great big X Mark on top of it. Canceled. Denied. Reject that thought from living inside of you and cancel that thought from going after another person so that it lives inside of them. Intention is powerful. Let’s be intentionally kind toward ourselves and toward others. Love, d #christianity #prayer #splankna #selfhelp #bebraver


Until soon ,

Donna Reiners