Fearless is who you are

Fearless is such a strong word but what if fearless is who you are? I look in the mirror and see a lifetime of fear, timidity, low self esteem, anguish, incompetence and worry. Honestly, it’s only been the last 10 years when I started to see a breakthrough in my thinking. Sometimes it takes a lifetime to discover that your weaknesses can be your greatest strengths. Feeling I deserved nothing was probably one of the strongest emotions I’ve faced. It’s strange I know. Many suffer from entitlement but mine was a lack of it. Both are equally unhealthy. Demanding it right now is no less dangerous than not caring at all if you ever “reach that …. you fill in the blank.” Some ask why I’m ‘in business’ now or how can I charge for helping people get well mentally and emotionally? Fascinating that they will pay someone else for less change than what I offer. It’s interesting that their context is almost offense as if I have no business charging money for my skillset development. But others do? It took years to unpack the respect for myself so I felt charging anyone was righteous. In the mean time I was content with nothing because I felt I did not deserve more. Ministry sound so much more loving than business. Really? Fear blinds you from inheritance. Fear keeps you bound to lack. The lightbulb continued to go off as I witnessed less respect when I gave away my services versus charged for them. Rarely do people respect what is given to them. I did not see that before but now I get it. What’s this got to do with fearless? I did not charge because I did not love myself enough to feel worthy enough to deserve being paid. Such a fearfully twisted identity. For years I attracted people to me who also felt no worth and therefore were also content with nothing. You won’t pay your bills, feed yourself or your family or have any way to help others when you have nothing. Listen- Bravely love yourself today. Not because you deserve it right this minute but because love is who you really are and it’s love that pushes fear out your door.

Loving yourself will change you, your bloodline and spheres of influence.

When you love you – you can share love with the ones around you. Love- d

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DeJaVu w Crystal McClung

Guest writer – Crystal McClung with Radiant Joy Consulting, LLC

dé·jà vu

noun

a feeling of having already experienced the present situation.

I have had dé·jà vu my entire life. Moments in time, as if it’s happened before. There are many theories of why this happens. Feel free to google those but in this moment I want to share my working definition.

These moments of absolute clarity down to the very fabric of a curtain, time of day, furniture placement and location often take me aback. I’ve come to learn for me they are prophetic moments that when they do come In that dé·jà vu moment, they are a confirmation of where I am supposed to be.

Tonight I had another one. I have only lived in my home since October. All day I’ve been preparing the basement area for another Identity Vision Board Workshop tomorrow. As I picked something up it hit, full blown, a moment in time and yet I had been here before. No mistaking the curtains that had been left by the previous owner, the classroom setup, the time, etc. And in that moment I had confirmation of where I was physically, leading in passion, feeling in emotion, and healing in life. I welled up, thankful for all things.

How do you know you are right where you’re supposed to be? God confirms His best plans in many ways. Take a moment and ask Him. Expect Him to answer; He will. You have a place here. One of honor, destiny, planning, and love. Receive it from Him today.

@Crystal McClung

A deep whisper? A Voice.

There is a whisper deep inside that comes. It is not just any whisper. It is not just any voice. It is not just a lingering stream of thoughts. It’s a deep deep place of trust. It’s a person. It’s truth. It says stay focused. Keep moving. Don’t look back. Whether you are in business for yourself, work for a company, whether you are a man or a woman at home with children, homeschooling, dropping your kids off at school, working at the Dairy Queen, or abused by your spouse… there is a voice to be heard deep within you. It took me years to hear the voice of truth. I shuffled amongst the feet of lies and defeat and stress and worry. Anxiousness claimed my mind. I was deeply controlled by the need of approval. What people thought mattered more than what God or I thought. Don’t give me wrong. I respect authorities and experts. I also respect the mom and the dad and the sister and the friend. I respect the one who lives underneath the bridge and the one who lives in the fancy house. I respect the story behind the pain. Everyone has paid a price to live the life they have chosen whether it be one of riches or poverty. There is a story deep within. But today, I’m hearing more strongly and clearly the deep deep thought of the one who created me from the foundation of the world. That one who knew me before I came to planet earth. And that one I will return to you when my breath is finished here. So sometimes, we walk alone in him. Following him. Listening to him. In partnership with him. In relationship with him. That’s the joy. That’s the adventure. That’s identity. Do you hear it? See it? Have you experienced the one who leads from the deep within.

Donna Reiners, lifecoach,

Invitation into Silence 1

Invitation into Silence

When I woke up this morning I had a most definite feeling of alone-ness. Almost empty really. It was almost overwhelming as I pondered my day…alone was in front of me and to be honest I normally do not mind…the alone part. However, for some reason I sidestepped the invitation into silence.

I stopped to listen and got no inspiration or understanding. Instead, I slipped into memories of my younger years when my responsibilities were deciding what movie I wanted to go see or what outfit I would wear or who I was going to meet or what I would do with the leftover in my check after I paid my car note which at the time was about a hundred dollars. Those were the days!

We have a LACK of Silence

Silence is an interesting word and an interesting condition of the heart. Some would even venture to say that silence is boring and to be honest, I believe that is the worn out norm for many generations. Think of the lack of silence that penetrates our days. Elevators have music to captivate your short attention on the way to your floor. Every doctor and dental office has music to drown out the confidential dialogues happening with patients. Frequently, you’ll find music flooding the department stores and grocery stores that keep you happy and energetic. More often than not it is very difficult to locate a restaurant that will allow you to have thoughtful conversation without some sort of musical ambiance to set the stage. None of this yet mentions our ability to keep our ears on overload with music or teaching through our very smart phones which are loaded up with every variety of sound available to man except perhaps – silence.

What’s my challenge today? GET QUIET! Be unafraid of silence. Turn off the radio, CD player and IPOD in your car for a week. Spend a day without tv. Try something new….enjoy YOU….the unfiltered you….the you without props and find out you are AWESOME without all that jazz……..adding noise to your mind and heart.

OKAY. That’s it.

HAVE A FANTABULOUSLY AMAZING DAY!!!

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Immature Boundaries

Immature Boundaries Donna ReinersSo, I was talking to a mom the other day who never sees her grow up adult kid. Now, I know this mom and they spent lots of time being there for their kid when they were young – all the sports games – took them lunch when they forgot it – took them their books when they so forgot them in the car – made sure the uniforms were clean – got them back and forth to school, to games, to friends, to…well…you name it. Fast forward – kid is now in the 20 something age. Guess what? Kid is soooo busy becoming a mature adult that there is no time to visit parents who are still alive and cognizant of their name and presence. This is not maturity – this is selfishness and lack of consideration. I’m calling it immature boundaries.

Side rant –  maybe your parents were selfish and were not there for you AT ALL……..I’m sorry………but you still get to mature and be the better person………

Back to point – If your parent or those that represent your parents have to ask you to visit them…then maybe you do need a reminder. If you have a parent nonchalantly asking to see you – maybe you need to employ a little thing called HONOR and get your butt over there more often and spend time with the one who spent time with you doing all the things you wanted to do when you were a selfish little kid whose life was ALL ABOUT YOU.

Ok – so perhaps you have left your safe nest and live on your own and think you have the right to live however you want. Really? You think they took the right to live however THEY WANTED when they went to every one of your games, got your hair cut, clothes purchased, etc..??  Listen…I know a dad who told me…that’s just part of it. Really? Letting a kid who now is on their own and paying their own bills run all over you and not willing to do a simple task for you is not supposed to be part of it.

Seriously…the parents may have had better things to do but they felt the better thing was to do for the kid.

Now I want to tell you my mom died when I was 17…..it would be an honor to have a time to be with her now..in her 90’s. I’m gonna want someone to love me when I’m oldER. How about you?

So, word to the young one – whether you are 20 going on 10 or 30 or 40 or 50 or ……you get the picture – How about you be mature and plan time to give back your own time, energy, finances and resources. Why don’t you choose this time to grow up….instead of thinking you are all grown up and you should not have to do anything you don’t want to……….like an immature child…why not try giving back…..you never know…you might even find your parents are your best friends….maybe not all the time…but hey…be who you wanted them to be even if they can’t be that yet…or ever. Be the bigger person. Always. Refuse to have immature boundaries.

And if your heart is just not into it and you just cannot fathom going to see your parents or those who consider themselves as your parents then I got to say…………….you NOT seeing them……..is worse than their behavior because what they did in ignorance – you now do on purpose.

Nothing but love for you – but its time to #BEBRAVER and LOVE on purpose.

Until next time……..

d

Off Your High Horse

20150216-NDIP10028Here I sit in a Starbucks keenly aware of my surroundings. The scurry of activity makes even my ADD move to a different level. I can see above each person’s head a story, a need, a history, a song, a calling and a life untold and unlived unbeknownst to them. What if the answer to your question was in the heart of the woman or man to the left or right of you? You are in the grocery store to get your food for the week but your insides are hurting because you have a need. Look up – the solution could be in front of you but first you may have to get off your high horse.

Need is Scary

What on earth could I mean? Need – its a strong and scary word for most. Yet we each experience it in various ways. Along with the word need comes words like responsibility, inconvenience and TIME. Perspective is everything and this is where the lines get a bit blurry. One one hand a person thinks they have no needs and therefore has no need of anyone so why be involved in taking responsibility in the lives of others? Be careful on that high horse. On the other hand you have a person who may have needs but tells no one out of fear of inconveniencing others so they remain silent. Be careful on that high horse. Maybe someone has needs and tells the world and monopolizes everyone’s time to the extent that they wear out their welcome because they feel entitlement. That too can be from the station of a high horse. Life from a high horse can look different for each person involved.

Before a Fall

All of us can have a bend in the kind of pride that comes before a fall. What if you live your life as if it is not your own? God is smart and if we would simply let Him be God then your call into responsibility in my life can be filled with joy and my call to be inconvenienced with your issues can be filled with joy and both our calls to have our time consumed with others can also be our joy.

What is it that brings a Christian life into self? Could it be looking at the needs of others as if they are less than instead of different? Have you not yet experienced the drudgery of responsibility, inconvenience or giving your time? If you have not – then you will and if you have already and think you will escape its clutches in the future – good luck with that kind of attitude. If you belong to the One Who died and lives then isn’t it His call as to how you spend your time or live your life? Why judge me as if my actions are less than yours or yours are greater or bigger than mine? If I keep my eyes on you then my perspective is already skewed. In the big corporate picture – we belong to a Father Who manages the microscopic and the macroscopic and both are equally important.

BE BRAVE

So, today’s encouragement is to simply be BRAVE enough to obey God right where you are and to pardon the visual – BOLDLY get off your high horse. If you think your business is bigger or better or even LESS than someone else, then gain a new RESPECT and take ACTION to be loving through HIS VICTORY. ENCOURAGE yourself and those around you because its God’s business and ALL HIS business is BIG business. Honestly, HE is the only One Who never changes and HE has the highest perspective available.

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d

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