TAKE BACK YOUR TIME!

TAKE BACK YOUR TIME!

So, recently, we discussed this season to TAKE IT BACK which you CLICK HERE. I encouraged you to take back your house, your body and your life! How on earth do you take on such a task? It sounds almost daunting to me.

TAKE BACK MY TIME
Donna Reiners

BUT you can do and so can I – today – let’s look at TIME!

How can you take back your time?

Are you in control of your time or is time in control of you?

What is TIME?

Time is such a gift and once your day has passed – you cannot get that day back. Once that hour has passed – guess what? That hour is passed. Once that opportunity is behind you – you cannot always go back to it and it does not always come again. Today is a day marked for you with TIME. What is time and how can you address it. Well, I’ve created an acronym for TIME.

TALK – Talk it out with yourself.

Identify – Identify what is next on the agenda.
Mimic – Mimic someone you know who is successful in this area.
Encourage – Encourage yourself because if you do not believe in you – why would someone else?
Last time I mentioned about how it is time to –  LIVE YOUR LIFE!

SO TODAY BE BRAVE!

Be BOLD and talk it out with yourself. What is the problem? I mean REALLY…what is it? Honesty is best in order to get to the root of the issue.

Be RESPECTFUL and identify where you need to begin in order to get moving. Don’t just say eeeeeeny meeeeny miny mo! NO…look at what you put down and go back to it first. Finish it and you will be one step ahead from where you are right this moment!

Be ACTIVE and mimic someone you know who seems to get a whole lot done.

Be VICTORIOUS and encourage yourself by saying something positive about YOU!

Be ENCOURAGING for yourself and take back your past false starts and just get started again!

Now, today I was BRAVE. I went back to a ministry project that has been unfinished due to discouragement as well as a lack of creativity on what to do next. Funny how God moves WHEN you move…the other day I decided I needed to get back in gear and let no more time waste and what did I see but a picture of how I felt I could create it and sure enough…it worked. I’m encouraged and today I finished a prototype for an outreach program I’ve been developing for churches and businesses to use in their communities. TAKE BACK YOUR LIFE

I TOOK BACK MY PROJECT!

Therefore, I am one step further down the road than I was a few days ago. This is good. I can breathe again. Guilt cannot grab me because I’m using my TIME wisely! Because I finished this particular item on my to do list, I am now engaged and planning my next move to finish another attached item on my list. Why do you procrastinate? Some times I wait because I’m truly waiting on direction, impression, renovation, etc. Other times I have a sneaky suspicion I’m a bit afraid of success. Funny huh? Have you ever been afraid of failure AND success. What do you do to conquer this foe and be VICTORIOUS in this area? In order to be victorious I had to decide today that the prototype I’m releasing does NOT have to be completely perfect. The pressure of perfection and performance had to go under my feet today because I’m moving………PERFECT OR NOT………..I’m putting one foot in front of the other and today I have on my running shoes but I’m getting ready to run in my heels too. What shoes do you need for the journey in front of you? How determined will you have to be in order to take back your TIME?

STINKIN THINKING’

There is something called stinking thinking and oddly enough I feel I’m a major contributor to my own demise. My talk on the inside of me is not always stellar and I remembered the renovation God has been doing in my mind and am grateful He loves me and as HE renovates me, I will change and become more like Him. I wrote a piece on stability that might challenge you – I encourage you to check it out here and give me your feedback in he reply area – RENOVATE YOURSELF BY CLICKING HERE!

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TAKE BACK YOUR TIME

LIVE YOUR LIFE!

20080110-NDI10119 FRONTHave you ever walked into a season of life when it feels as if the walls are closing in and the very ground you are walking on is now shaking? You turn to the left and that friend who was once your “bestie” has moved on saying, “Our season of friendship is over.” You turn to the right and that special person whom you have stood with and been through thick and thin with for years is suddenly just not interested in who you are or what you have going on in life. Wow. Breathe in. Breathe out. You look around you and realize countries are fighting, companies are folding and churches are changing direction. That family whom you have been friends with for years is divorcing and one of them is taking the other one for all they’ve got. Who knew they had such contempt for one another? Then it gets even more personal. A family member divorces because the man they were married to decided to leave her for another man – I guess the first clue was that he had more female clothing in his closet than she did in hers. Then, a family member gets sick. Another family member dies. Yet another is wanting to commit suicide AND MAYBE you are thinking of doing that too. You don’t know if you are up or down. It’s as if a day has come when every prop you used to help you stand up has been removed and you are suddenly wobbling around like a chicken that just came out of your shell. When a chick comes out of the shell, the world is new and its trying to figure out how to walk and what its going and where it is and so on. BUT – you are not brand new out of a shell are you?

So, what are you going to do when all hell breaks loose and you feel like you are falling apart?!

BREATHE IN

BREATHE OUT

DO IT AGAIN.
You ARE going to be okay. You will not just survive. You will LIVE.

LIVE.

LEAN into God – let the props go – let the crutches go.

IDENTIFY what it is you truly believe about this God Who says He loves you and Who says HE is your Father…its personal…its intimate….He is not just the Big Guy in the sky – if you have given yourself to Him then HE is now your Father and HE WILL NOT LEAVE YOU. HE is for you – but do you believe it in the midst of the tragedy?

VICTORY is yours IF you will let yourself truly truly trust yourself to His ways and His vision

ENCOURAGE yourself – do not just lay there and die. DO SOMETHING positive and prepare to move forward from where you are to where HE wants to take you.

  • You are going to have to be radically honest in order to LIVE.
  • What are your props? Emotional? Mental? Financial? Spiritual? Is it God or man?
  • Do you believe He loves you? This is a decision – not based on your experiences but based on HIS actions. HE DID die for you and HE DOES live and DOES make intercession for you today to become HIS and to remain HIS.
  • Can you ask HIM what HIS vision is for your life? MUST you continue to cling to your own thoughts or can you let Him give you His thoughts and ideas?
  • You DO have value and you are worth encouraging. You HAVE to decide to get up. I can lift you up and your friends can lift you up but you can just sit right back down again….its okay that we lift one another up and sometimes we won’t make it without the lifting but AFTER you are lifted…..are you willing to choose to live?

Only you can answer the above thoughts and queries.

I see your value. Do you? It is past time to Be BRAVE – Be Bold...decide today is the day to live. Be Respectful toward yourself and see your own personal value and take ACTION in living – you can honor yourself without it becoming a self centered selfish act – you can honor and value your life without running over others to do it. Remember there IS an avenue for VICTORY…..can you find it and then follow it? ENCOURAGE yourself in the LORD. Listen…today IS a new day and it is a day for personal bravery…be brave….until God makes you BRAVER.

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d

Lived LONGER than I have left

Have you ever noticed how the sanctity of life is being demised little by little year after year after year? Children are discarded alive and elderly people are cast away into nursing homes.

It is an ever so subtle happening…

I’m over 50 now and this means I have lived longer than I have left on the planet. When I was 17/18 years old my mom died at the age of 57. YOUNG. Her premature death haunted me for many years…for years I would stay up all night just because I had a fear of going to sleep and not waking up at all….talk about a sick point of view….I had it.  At the same time however her death also impacted me positively. I see life precious. I see life short. I see relationships precious. I know when someone treats me poorly it is because they have been treated poorly. I know if you don’t acknowledge me when I come into a room means you probably aren’t acknowledged in a way where you understand the value of your own life or others. I’ve learned (over time) to understand that most of us truly mean to do good….but we many times fall short because of our own personal issues. In other words – if you don’t like me – it may not be about me.

In my 20’s I was pretty arrogant. I searched for the meaning of life by delving deep inside my own heart…all 20 years of it. At that time I figured I had it all figured out. HA! I consulted my own mind and my own emotions and decided what was right or wrong based on my own experience…all 20 years of it. Bless my heart…I lived under a rock of denial and abandonment. This was how I handled death and tragedy and all of the trauma that came through it.  My mom’s death was not something I just “got over”. She was my best friend and influenced me more than anyone I knew. Then, she was gone so early in my life – well – it was more difficult than I can express. Yes, my dad was still living but he was hurting and had known her much longer than I had known her and the hole in his heart was a thousand times larger. Dad lived a long time and moved to heaven at the ripe age of 81….many years later.

Why am I sharing all of these seemingly disconnected thoughts and what does this have to do with the sanctity of life from babies to the elderly? I share because they are not disconnected in my brain and heart. You see I’m the 51 year old baby of my family and at the present time of this blog, I have a sister approaching 60 – another sister in her mid 60’s and still another sister who literally just moved to heaven this week – she was 68. When I was 18, 20, 25 and even 30 –  I could not ever fathom living this “old” and now being this “old” I can tell you – I’m not that old!!! LOL!!! Yet still I’ve less left than I’ve lived and in that mindset and that place inside of me where I’m watching all of us grow older.…I am able to truly see how as a culture, we could easily ignore what once was considered precious and honorable….and what God says is now precious and honorable – one another.

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My Main Distraction

So in this busy world we live in with our lives inundated 24/7 with business, busyness, social media distractions….face it…most of us spend more time on a computer or our phone than we do actually interacting with live human beings face to face where we actually look one another in the eye. In this place of computer land, have you noticed how our hearts can grow insensitive to the needs of others – even those closest to us? Wait…let me finish this post and then I’ll talk to a live person. Seriously. I’m sure this may not be for everyone but I’m sure there are some reading this whose kids want your attention but you are at your computer. There are some whose spouses would love to have actual time with you one on one without you looking at your phone – all of these “needs” to be on the computer to make us satisfied….our hearts are growing just a little bit colder and colder…and I gotta admit…I’m married to an IT guru and its with honesty I say that  I LOVE MY MAC.

Our precious sister who just passed lived in a nursing facility.  Her needs far outweighed anything any of us could provide and truly it would have been a disservice for her to live where her needs could not be met or where she would be in danger alone.Yet the guilt that shadows our hearts because of her living alone in a place like that was like a rake across a dry root covered ground. I would go to see her as often as possible and yet it never seemed enough on the inside of me. As I write this blog, this same sister just this week has moved to heaven. Her health was very poor – congestive heart failure, failing lungs, failing kidneys,  low heart beat and the list goes on.  Her husband traveled with her to the hospital and remained as much as he could and each one of us did as well. It would have been so easy to dismiss her and – she was not my responsibility – after all – she was not my mother and she had a husband. Yet, her own daughter lives in another city and was unable to care for her and her husband worked and could not be there every waking moment.

What do we do?

What do we do when the needs of another outweigh our energy, resources and ideas? WE HAVE TO GUARD OUR HEARTS to keep from becoming insensitive. HOW? BE BRAVE! Be BOLD and lean into the Father for wisdom, rest, ideas, energy and resources. HE will strengthen you to do what you can when you can and live as best as you can this life HE has given you.

What do we do?

Be BRAVE! We must pay attention to the cry of our Father Who wants us to RESPECT His guidelines for our hearts to stay right – stay pliable and soft and easily convicted and lead by Him.  We keep our heart undistorted by the cares and weights of this world and the busyness of our minds and stay focused on what and who is important to Him. We must take ACTION to LISTEN and to be as organized as possible taking care of His priorities so we have time for that suddenly that comes up in life that requires our attention like a loved one in the hospital….which is one of His priorities. We take on becoming VICTORIOUS by living guilt free when we are available to hear Him and respond to Him instead of our emotional regrets, guilt and distractions. We live bravely doing the very best we can daily and when we mess up – when we are selfish or when we are just losing our minds and must have a break from all the “duties” – we stop – we RECALIBRATE our lives and we ENCOURAGE ourselves! We get still and make a new list and start all over again 🙂

If we put ourselves in His shoes and walk out life through His life, we will have peace for our journey and be able to help another along the way without it eating us alive in the process….HE is the journey….HIM knowing us and us knowing HIM.

Look into your life. Is there someone who needs your love? Your touch? Your call? Do you need to recalibrate for this year and free yourself with a few minutes per day to reach outside of you into someone else who cannot give back to you? Don’t do it for kudos. Just do it for the precious shortness of life you and they have on this planet. Do it so you have fewer regrets. Do it for God – do it for them – AND do it for you. Stop. Breathe in and breathe out and consider your day before you waste it away. Love and see how love comes back to you.

Its a new day. Look at it as precious. Love while you can. Say a kind word when you can and answer that email, that phone call – that letter – that prayer request. Reconcile with those who you feel have wronged you and restore relationships with those whom you have wronged. Truth is when you have lived longer than you have left (if you have not already) – God gives you opportunity to love while it is still called today….and when someone does not love you back – well – all I can say is don’t take it personally – it may have nothing to do with you. Do your part to have humility. It is pride that refuses restoration or reconcilation even if it is disguised with hurt or pain or offense. RUN to the altar of humility and let the price He paid for your life be lived through you. Fight to sit in the back seat NOT the front seat!

LIVE your life while it is still called today. Live…longer……today…by giving yourself away…

Be BRAVE –  Bold-Respctful-Active-Victorious-Encouraging for yourself and for those around you.

Until next time,

d

Stay In STABILITY

Do you want to stay in stability?

When I was in my early twenties and in college I studied fitness and at that time becoming a fitness trainer or instructor was only then being considered as a viable vocation. I took the classes and loved the information and genuinely appreciated the field and could see myself helping people physically to gain or regain strength and stability in their lives. I could see how it would be an amazing to work in this industry and saw in my mind how twenty years later I could be doing it in a way that was significant. I had a strong conviction to pursue it and see what I could become through this healthy direction. However, life got the best of me and I did not take my exam. I ended up moving away and had tragedy enter into the scenario and becoming healthy through exercise and diet became a vanishing conviction and a far away dream.

Have you ever left behind the very thing you should have retained? My life became very unstable as I searched for myself and fast forward into living life and now its over thirty years later. My body is larger and my stamina is different.

A couple years ago my doctor told me that because of my change in life I needed to exercise regularly so that my bones would remain healthy and strong. Also, I have some medical issues that give me warnings to remind me that I need to eat right, exercise and drink water….things you would think I could do after 50 with no problems. HA!

Old habits die hard – I can tell you that straight up.

So, some months pass and I still am not doing what I know I should be doing although I think of it daily.  DAILY the thought inundates my mind – exercise. Still I make no move other than to walk daily but I only do that for a few weeks before its too cold…now I realize I live in the Houston area so too cold for me is like 60 versus if you live in Pennsylvania or say New York – your too cold could be snowing and below zero. Its all relative, but the real deal is my lack of discipline and my tired body (because of my lack of exercise) chose to refuse the discipline of a daily walk. Truth.

Then, I return to a yearly doctor appointment and face again the man who told me a year ago that I HAVE to exercise or face the results of that decision. He asks me how my exercising is coming and tells me it is time for a bone density test and talks to me about how I can have stability in my latter years. Wow. When I was 20 I never thought I was unstable and certainly never thought about what my life would be like when I was over 50.  The doctor’s words carried weight and though kind and considerate I left feeling pretty intimidated.

WHAT AM I GOING TO DO??

Well if you are like me…you wish you responded to the genuine conviction that came years before the change in life but a doctor giving you warnings and then basically threatening you with consequences is what you finally use as your spring board to “do the right thing.”.

Early in the year, when I started at the gym with a trainer, I noticed it was difficult to execute most the exercises without losing my balance. Also, when I attempted exercises that required stability – I noticed I was wobbly. I paid it no never mind really and figured it was just because I am OLDer and because I was not used to the regular movement.

Let me do a little sidetracking that is part of my main point. My feet underwent surgery in the 80’s and I’ve never really been able to find shoes that fit my feet that do not hurt my feet. However, I DID find some – pictured here – and they fit me like a glove and I LOVED them….they hugged my feet like a very well fitting coat and really were the most comfy shoes I have had in years. However, do you notice how the bottoms are ROUND and not flat? I never noticed the round. I just noticed the comfy.

ROUND & COMFY

Guess WHO noticed the round?? My trainer at the gym noticed the round. As a matter of fact from almost day one he would comment, “You probably need to find some shoes that are not round – this would help you be stable on your feet.” However, do you think I went shoe shopping? NO, I did not and why not do you ask? I did not because I LOVED my snuggy shoes….and did not want to change them EVEN if it meant I could be stable on my feet. Sad what we hold onto isn’t it?  I was unwilling to let go of the very thing that was causing my instability and to make things worse, I clung to my right to keep my comfort zone and would not even consider another kind of shoe that was pain free like my “unstable ones”.

After four months of training in my unstable shoes, I took a two month break to work out on my own at home just to find I was not disciplined enough to exercise by myself. Then, I admitted my need to be at a gym and with all the courage I could muster, I returned to the gym to be trained. The problem was that though I said I wanted to be trained, I ignored the trainer’s instructions. I wanted to do it all my own way in my own shoes. So, this time in returning, I decided I wanted to do it the right way. So, I met with @Jason Hodge with Medical Fitness Pros in Katy, Texas (www.medicalfitnesspros.com) and Dr. Mike with www.postrehab.com and asked them both what to do. The recommendation was a local shoe store in La Centerra called Luke’s Footlocker in Katy (www.lukeslocker.com) and actually get fitted for  tennis shoes that will fit MY feet and hug my ankle. But what did I do???? I went to a sports store in the mall and purchased what I thought were good solid stable shoes and guess what happened? I experienced a problem with my ankle. When I switched from what was COMFORTABLE to what I “thought was stable” instead of what was recommended by someone who is professional and authentic – all I got was aggravation. Deep inside my ankle there is a popping sound from my ankle. It does not hurt but it is strange and distracting. Of course, we took the shoes back and finally followed instructions and worked with Nick and Chris at Luke’s (like I was told) for a couple hours to determine the best course of action for MY feet. These are my stable shoes which incidentally fit well and are PAIN FREE.

Stay in STABILITY – my new shoes

This is the thing though – had I followed instructions and inquired on where to purchase solid stable shoes in the beginning of my working out – would I have experienced the problem I’m having right now with my feet? I don’t know really…but for now it is hindering my walk.

So if you made it through this long and drawn out story you get to hear what I’m learning.

1. There are mistakes I never have to make if I will listen and learn from those who have already walked in my shoes.

2. There is some pain that IS avoidable if again I am willing to humble myself and learn and actually submit myself to someone’s understanding other than my own.

3. I do not have to REMAIN defeated by what has defeated me in the past.

4. I am teachable.

5. I CAN CHANGE.

6. It is NOT too late to be different even if it takes time.

7. Finally, stability is more important than comfort.

Do you hold onto what you know because you think there is no way it can get any better?

Are you willing to remain UNSTABLE for the sake of being comfortable?

Can you change your mind and become different and move beyond your past defeat?

Are you teachable?

I’m a happy camper because I continue to move forward. I’m back at the gym with a trainer who is positioning me with my posture and challenging me to NOT gain weight during ANY season and wants me to succeed.

Do yourself a long term life long favor – discover what it is you cling to that is really not the friend of your future and make some changes and let’s meet a year from now. In the mean time – let’s both STAY IN STABILITY!

Until Soon!

d

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Ugly is the NEW Fabulous

Ugly is Fabulous!I’m FABULOUS now…but my ugly lasted way into my thirties. How about you?

Our family was on vacation in Tennessee when I was around six or seven years old. Bored, I went riding on a bicycle in the neighborhood looking for something to do. I happened to come across a group of boys that were riding their bicycles down a street. Now, in this part of Tennessee, the streets were pretty hilly and this one had a steep dip and curve at the end of it. The boys were bragging about how it was a really hard ride and how there was no way that a girl could do it. Since my pride never allowed me to back down from a challenge, I looked at those boys and looked down the hill and with confidence said, “No problem.” Frankly, I was scared to death but there was no way these “boys” were ever going to know it. So, I took off down the hill. Had I known then what I know now, of course I would have just ignored their little challenge and gone about my business but I was young and good sense was not in my mind at that moment. Let me explain. As soon as I began to roll down the hill, the bicycle picked up speed so fast that I had to lift my feet to keep them from getting sliced from the pedals because at that time all bicycle had those little sharp pointed pedals. It was as if my life (all six or seven years of it) was passing before my eyes. I wondered quickly how I would ever stop the bicycle and then before I knew it, I was near the end of the deep rolling hill.

ALL OF A SUDDEN, I felt the front of the wheel of my bike lift up in the air and me with it. I flew out of the bike and later folks told me my body soared as tall as the nearest pine tree before I fell face forward into the gravel like substance that lay in the middle of the road. Apparently, the bike had hit the gravel and caused it to flip and lose what little stability it might have had. In addition, later, doctors said I was fortunate that I did not break every bone in my body because of the force of the fall. Some thirty-five years later, I still have the memory etched as scars where the gravel found my legs and arms. What resulted from this pride filled fall was two weeks of ice baths and broken front teeth that had to be capped with UGLY hideous silver and porcelain. I was then what myself and others considered a very ugly duckling. I had to keep those ugly caps until I was a freshman in high school and there was not a day that went by that someone did not make fun of me in some way regarding my looks. Needless to say that I grew up feeling very inferior, very insecure, very unwanted, very unaccepted and most definitely very very UGLY! Little did I know that Ugly is the new fabulous.

Words to inspire you – 1 John 4:7 – Psalm 143:8 – Romans 8:28 – Philippians 1:6 – Romans 8:38-39

FAST FORWARD………I turned 51 just last year and I gotta say I feel like the ugly duckling was beautiful throughout my entire journey……..I just did not know it. Could this be the secret per chance? Knowing who you are determines HOW you see yourself and how you see you determines what others see too.

Is your identity in your looks?  Do yourself a GREAT FAVOR!!! Go look yourself in the mirror and say with me, “UGLY IS IN THE PAST!  I AM FABULOUS!!! Say it until you believe it and when you do-those around you will too!! It’s NEVER TOO LATE to see how FABULOUS God ALREADY MADE YOU! It’s all about perspective!ayer

Jesus, when I look in the mirror, I sometimes only see pain and heart break and ugly. No one around me really knows how miserable I am at times on the inside of me! Well, I want to experience and understand how You see me so that I can feel and think like the beautiful, hand chosen hand crafted person You love with a never-ending, ever-lasting love. I want to see me as You see me! I desire to look in the mirror and truly smile on the inside and not just on the outside. Help me God for I need to receive and comprehend this unconditional love You have for me. I give myself over to You and ask You to make Your love real. Free me from myself and bring me into Your great and perfect love. Let Your kingdom come and Your will be done as You have already determined in heaven. In Jesus name.

Jesus, I am willing to get to know You and I want You to get to know me. I’m afraid to have anyone really really know me deep within my heart. But, I recognize You are God and I cannot go on hiding from You.

God, help me say goodbye to the ugly and hello to what and who I really am –  fabulous.