The Process

Change is a process. We want a silver bullet but it is all about the process. It’s called renewing the mind. It’s not a one time event. You don’t expose lies and vows and change into a different person like magic. You take bite after bite into the lies of who you have thought yourself to be and you let yourself make new decisions as you unfold who God says you have already BECOME. Be patient with you as you let yourself become the brand new you. Be kind to those around you in their process too.

You get to look change in the eye with courage and confidence and kindness and eventually realize your worldview has changed. You have gone through the process of thinking differently – toward yourself and those surrounding you – one decision at a time. Love-d

Invitation into Silence 1

Invitation into Silence

When I woke up this morning I had a most definite feeling of alone-ness. Almost empty really. It was almost overwhelming as I pondered my day…alone was in front of me and to be honest I normally do not mind…the alone part. However, for some reason I sidestepped the invitation into silence.

I stopped to listen and got no inspiration or understanding. Instead, I slipped into memories of my younger years when my responsibilities were deciding what movie I wanted to go see or what outfit I would wear or who I was going to meet or what I would do with the leftover in my check after I paid my car note which at the time was about a hundred dollars. Those were the days!

We have a LACK of Silence

Silence is an interesting word and an interesting condition of the heart. Some would even venture to say that silence is boring and to be honest, I believe that is the worn out norm for many generations. Think of the lack of silence that penetrates our days. Elevators have music to captivate your short attention on the way to your floor. Every doctor and dental office has music to drown out the confidential dialogues happening with patients. Frequently, you’ll find music flooding the department stores and grocery stores that keep you happy and energetic. More often than not it is very difficult to locate a restaurant that will allow you to have thoughtful conversation without some sort of musical ambiance to set the stage. None of this yet mentions our ability to keep our ears on overload with music or teaching through our very smart phones which are loaded up with every variety of sound available to man except perhaps – silence.

What’s my challenge today? GET QUIET! Be unafraid of silence. Turn off the radio, CD player and IPOD in your car for a week. Spend a day without tv. Try something new….enjoy YOU….the unfiltered you….the you without props and find out you are AWESOME without all that jazz……..adding noise to your mind and heart.

OKAY. That’s it.

HAVE A FANTABULOUSLY AMAZING DAY!!!

LOVE LOVE LOVE…until next time,

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Can't Touch This ©Donna Reiners

Can’t Touch this…

Can’t Touch This…

A video to see if you don’t like to read OR a video to see WITH the read…

This is the deal. We have an entire generation (this is NOT age specific) of men and women who think they are impervious to aging or needing others or mishaps that take your life into another direction than what you are believing God for…you know…that million dollar job where you are care free or that dream vacation life where you have zero responsibilities…not to mention marrying this person or that person and spending all your precious time with someone who may not have the stamina to love you if your bowels loose on them.  Let me just say that money does not buy you happiness and does not turn back the wheels of time. Sure, you can slow down the wrinkles, draw back the skin, remove the fat and basically redo your body from top to toe but it does not make your insides healthy. Remember that song…I think by MC Hammer???, “Can’t Touch This…”

Life happens people. Life DOES touch us…You can either yell about it and bitch and moan and complain (I know I said the B word and I’ll probably get a WHOLE lot of flack) or you can put your big girl/boy undies on and face reality and live life as it comes to you instead of avoid it like the plague. It is our response to our life that determines our futures with one another. I saw a lady at the pet store yesterday who was talking about having to care for her 85 year old mother who is still mobile but living with her. She was not bitter and I was thankful but I could tell she had not yet grabbed hold that God had entrusted her with her mom and that it is her honor to love her on this side of heaven. For those who have walked with me for a season, you may remember the passing of our sister Mary Ann who needed a great deal more than I was physically capable of providing – she lived in a nursing facility. I saw her frequently and I gotta say it was inconvenient many of the time since she was 45 minutes away. However, it truly was an honor to love her while she was on this side of heaven and now that she is no longer available to touch, call or hear, it is amazing how UN-inconvenient she really was in real time. I can’t bring her back and it never worked…this whole attitude of can’t touch this.

Can't Touch This
Donna Reiners

What are you doing with the ones who live with you or are your aging family members or aging friends? You NEED TO TOUCH THEM! I remember Dad and how he needed our love as a family and how we leaned how to honor him and how God changed ALL OF US in the process. Honor is an action word and it sooooo encouraged my dad to BE LOVED!!!! It also encouraged us to love him. Tomorrow does not always come. Aging. Do I mean someone in their 80’s? No. I’m saying look around for goodness sake. Do you have a mom or a dad? Do you have a step mom or a step dad? Do you have siblings? Do you have aunts and uncles? Do you have nieces and nephews? What about friends who you consider family? How about your neighbor? When is the last time you loved them face to face? Watched a movie with them? Had dinner? Laughed over some jokes? Held their hand? Hugged their neck? Wiped their behind? Yes, I went there…don’t worry…you will survive.

It’s time to love while it is still called today. #BEBRAVER – Love is an action word. No you cannot run all over tarnation (my mama used that word when I was a kid.) BUT you can look into your life and see one person whom you can love. She or he may be in your same house. Don’t ignore those closest to you and don’t run away from the ones you want to run from….may be that there is a strong life lesson OR a whole lot of love in that person for you…if you can look through their tone and look into their need AND IGNORE that whole feeling of can’t touch this

We all need each other.

Eventually.

Might as well start now.

send to a friend………

Until next time – much love,

d

Leaving the Parking Lot

20140222-NDIP10093I’m writing this in retrospect because at the time of this writing I have already left the parking lot instead of just now leaving the parking lot. Forgive me as I get you caught up on the entrapment of a parking lot. Interesting truly it is when you discover that not only are you stuck but actually you feel semi trapped in it and you feel as if there is no leaving it. It has been an interesting stretch of the journey. Admittedly, many times I feel like what others think could happen in a split second, I feel could take years. So, does that make me a negative woman or just gifted to see that sometimes the glass really is not as full as you think? I’m not sure but I really felt like it would be centuries or years before I would even understand enough of what was happening in life to gain the courage to begin leaving this seemingly dark place or as I fondly began to say –  leaving the parking lot. Melodramatic to say the least.  The other thing I discovered on this stretch is that I have not been alone in the parking lot. Many of us have been feeling as if we are in a dark place or in an enemy entrapment. After I realized it was not just me but that the burden was for the body then I had a moment of enlightenment….AHAH!!! This is why its been such a heavy place ignited by the work of the enemy as many places as he could find me along the way via fear, dread, terror, paralyzing feelings, etc. I ask you to join me as it is time to look at the future of today and say goodbye to the past. This is my conclusion and many of you have been conversing with me privately as well in open comments but mostly privately and so let me tell you what I’ve concluded. It is time for us ALL to be leaving the parking lot.

Start Your Engine

Just start your engine. START YOUR ENGINES – HENCE THE CHECKERED OUTFIT. I’m your flag for the go go go. Yes, I realize you may not feel like it but the truth is that though God may have lead us into the parking lot – when we know we are there – then we are in a parking lot by choice. Does God take advantage of this time of stopping, resting, sleeping, relaxing, recalibrating? OF course He does – HE is the Smartest One alive. I’m not saying you need to take leave right now but you need to at least start the car. Quit waiting for ideal situations that may never come or passionate people to pull you out of the mire. I’m here – I’m passionate  and I’m ready to pull you out of the mire. When I was considering the exit strategy from the darkness or heaviness, I was exhausted and felt there was no way I could even think about leaving the parking lot.

A Heavy Comfort Zone

By this time, I had become comfortable. This is the trouble with the comfort that had visited with me – it was a heavy comfort disguised as darkness and it had been sent to take me INTO darkness. Question. Do you WANT to lean into darkness and then still be sitting in the same lot a year from now? Think about it. No. I mean really THINK. Do you WANT to be in the exact same place one year from now as you are today? If not, then you need to listen carefully to instructions to help you in the process of leaving the parking lot.

THINK and START YOUR ENGINE.

T – Tell a friend you need to change your private world, public world, situation, circumstance or heart’s condition. If you have no friends you can trust then email me and I’ll be your friend. I care and want you free.

H – Hope for the best and stop dwelling on the emptiness of your glass. Do not be duped by the enemy not even for one more day. I bet once you get hope filled, you will see a plan right before your eyes. So, you might as well start your engine.

I – I I I I I I I – staying in the parking lot is going to cause you to continue to think about yourself and really do you think you will have much hope if you continue to just be into your SELF????? God has gifted you (even if you don’t see it), HE has instructed you (even if you have forgotten what He said) and He has entrusted you to live out your life as to HIM – not you and certainly not to darkness. One thing I know is that though I want to understand every step I take before I take it….truth is that Jesus is my Road Map. HE IS THE MAP. I hold the Map inside me. HE is the key. Quit waiting to understand how you are going to do it….just start moving. Start your engine.

N – NO – you need to tell your old patterns of fear, dread, unbelief, sleepiness, habits that stop you from moving forward and just past behaviors NO – tell them to all shut up and tell them you are starting a new day and the last time you checked God was still into giving new mercies every single day and you are moving into a new merciful day. Today is the day to change your mind and say no to you and yes to HIM and HIS ways and HIS goodness and HIS life. Sever the darkness from you even right now…separate yourself from what you know you must say NO to!! When you say YES to God – you say NO to the enemy’s ways. Say it with me, “I change my mind and come out of this dark heaviness. I sever it from me. I command it to go to a dry place. I ask You God to forgive me for partnering with darkness and I receive Your forgiveness. I forgive myself. I release myself from yesterday and start your engine to prepare to move into tomorrow on purpose in Jesus name.

K – Be KIND to YOU. For goodness sake – ditch the condemnation, criticism, crazy ugly self talk and let God live through you to be KIND to youuuuuuuuuuuuu!!!!! Get some who are like minded and have some good old fashion prayer time with some folks who believe in you and want the same as you. It is time. THINK. THINK. THINK. Start your engine my friend….let’s get a move on.

Awaken Your Spirit

Okay. So this is how I left the parking lot…..I’m encouraging you to do the same. Start your engine. Keep in mind…in the unseen realm….its okay…you won’t run out of gas with your engine running in the spirit. This is what I mean by start your engine – awaken your spirit my friend. You have incredible value….even if you don’t feel it for yourself. I had no idea where I was going or when I would leave – I just knew I could not longer remain in the parking lot anymore. Then, once it was decided, then God did what God does – HE talks to you to help you have the unction to leave the parking lot.

So, I will get a tad spiritual for a moment and pray for you okay?

BE BRAVE

In Jesus name, I declare freedom in you and over you and through you to leave the parking lot. #bravetobraver -You are BRAVE! You are BOLD and you are well able to leave entrapment. You have RESPECT for yourself and you are well able to take ACTION and to leave where you are and move forward into more of Him and more He has for you. You ARE VICTORIOUS over your past and so I sever from you what is not from HIM. I declare you are well able to change your mind and go into a new day. I free you to be convicted and not condemned. I release you into ENCOURAGEMENT, blessings and peace and power and provision and promise in Jesus name. I free you to be LOVED by others and loved by yourself too. LOVE LOVE LOVE.  Blessed be the name of the LORD!! YAY JESUS!!!!!So, get ready for a new day and a new plan….see you outside the parking lot 🙂

If you read this far you might be interested in a fiction story…kind of like a soap opera really – I released the 3rd part in the Other Side of the Road and am preparing to release FROM the Other Side of the Road – you can follow me there too if you like – its just for fun!! http://donnareinersblogs.wordpress.com/

Send this to friends who need some help out of the parking lot. Who knows? Maybe the same enemy breathing down my neck and your neck is breathing down their neck?

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d

 

Breathing Down Your Neck

cropped-20131011-ndip106041.jpgHave you ever felt the enemy breathing down your neck?

I must admit that I have not in quite some time. Course that does not mean he is not right there distracting but I think I must have gotten on his very last nerve because today was a whole new ball game – today was an exception. I wish I could say that I had been #bravetobraver or that I had felt the breath of God breathing down my neck or the wind of God but it was none other than the enemy. Again, I ask you – have you felt the enemy breathing down your neck?

My Escape Route

You see, I have been contemplating my escape route as I have been still stuck in a parking lot  for quite some time and then just when I felt like I was receiving a breakthrough – BAM – there is the enemy doing his job again to stop me.  Do you know what transpired to begin such a dilemma? I had decided that I needed to climb the mountain to see the view. Before I got to the mountain, I had been frozen in time and prior to that experience I had been shouting don’t jump ship. And if you want a walk down my memory lane in the near past, I was singing Let It Go Again right when the movie Frozen came out – pretty good timing don’t you think? But, I digress as I’m asking about the enemy and him breathing down your neck.

If you have been following me at all, you know that the season I’ve been in has had me weeping pretty much most the time – the enemy wanted me to think I was losing my mind. Along with loss and death came friendship changes, church changes, and health changes. It has literally seemed like one thing after another and honestly, it has been a challenge. I’m cognizant that I’ve not been alone so none of this is a poor pitiful me story. I’m just keeping it real. So, anyhow, just as I’m making decisions to leave the parking lot, there I felt the hot presence of the enemy as he was breathing down my neck. So, what do you do when you are stuck in a parking lot while the enemy is breathing down your neck?

Get Mad

I tell you what you do – you just get mad. That’s right….mad. Granted, I’m not the mad type. Even when I’m upset….I’m not mad. Sometimes I think that there is something wrong with me. I remember the woman I was 22 years ago when I would cuss you out and shoot the finger at you for just cutting me off on the highway….and then I would run you down to tell you what a crazy person you were for cutting me off!!!  Goodness, now all I do is ask God to bless them…..or maybe it was you? So, now, instead of getting mad – I have decided to get MAD – MOVIN’ AFTER DAD!

So, God is smart and He lives through us to bring us His good pleasure so as the enemy has been making himself known to me, it crossed my mind to consider my ways, the enemy’s ways and God’s ways. I decided that perhaps it would be wisdom for me to have an actual plan as I leave the parking lot – hence why this particular writing is NOT the one about leaving. Wouldn’t you agree that you might need an exit strategy even if the enemy is breathing down your neck?

Get Ready to Leave the Parking Lot

This is what I figured out today. I need a plan. Granted, I have an event coming up and so me leaving right this very moment is not happening. However, my mind is leaving and my emotions pretty much left over the weekend. What do I mean by that? I will tell you. God was gracious to reveal to me the source of my spiritual mudslide and help me work through some of the issues. I think I explained last time that I discovered a tie with an ungodly source. This is why I’m in a parking lot. God is the Smartest Person I know and this needed resolve. Smart I tell you. HE knew I needed to sever that tie and He also explained some things that helped the entire situation make sense. So, what do you do when the enemy is breathing down your neck?

Be Brave

You get mad – moving after Dad! I want to encourage you today that it is time to be BRAVE. Instead of allowing yourself to be held by timidity – trust God with His timing and GRAB YOUR BOLDNESS. Instead of allowing yourself to be entrapped by an enemy – GRAB YOUR RESPECT and get MAD. Instead of remaining passive regarding ungodly ties – GRAB YOUR ACTION. Instead of looking at your situation from your position – GRAB YOUR VICTORY! Instead of allowing yourself to be anxious, stressed out, filled with tension or upset – GRAB YOUR ENCOURAGEMENT. Yes, I know I’m shouting. Can you hear me now?

Be BRAVE when the enemy is breathing down your neck!

Be Bold. Respectful. Active. Victorious over your past and encouraging for yourself.  Then, be good to someone else and help them be brave too. #Bravetobraver

If you read this far you might be interested in a fiction story…kind of like a soap opera really – I just released the 3rd part in the Other Side of the Road – you can follow me there too if you like – its just for fun!! http://donnareinersblogs.wordpress.com/

Send this to friends who need some help out of the parking lot. Who knows? Maybe the same enemy breathing down my neck and your neck is breathing down their neck?

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Until next time,
d

Breathing Down Your Neck
Get Moving After Dad! #bravetobraver        ©Donna Reiners

 

 

Still Stuck in a Parking Lot

Surely, I won’t be here long…this is what I would ponder…as I asked myself why on earth was I still stuck in a parking lot.

I am at the end of an odd season. Everything within me wanted to give up and turn back and give in and look down. However, this was new territory for me since my mantra for some time had been just the opposite. I pondered a little bit on how many friends would stick around if I was no longer the go to friendly let me pray for you person who encouraged when life was bleak or dark. It only crossed my mind but let’s me honest now…how many friends have you chosen NOT to hang out with or be friends with WHEN they are not their usual fun self? This may not be you but it is some of you. God wants us to rejoice when others rejoice…but He also wants us to weep when others weep – not condemn, not try to change, not try to hurry them along so they can get with the happy program. But how about you take just a moment out of your day to be their sunshine, lighten their load, give them a word of encouragement, be their spiritual mom, friend or confidant. Are you able or willing to make room for others when they are not who you want them to be in YOUR season of life? Don’t be condemned and don’t be upset. God says it’s okay to go there – after all – honesty is a fabulous place to sit when still stuck in a parking lot.

Encouraging Myself

Thankfully, I’m about to the end of a season where I have been weeping any given moment of the day. Sadness would take me over and I would just cry and cry and then cry some more….and then I would be fine again – until the next wave of sad rolled my way. It was as if I had turned into a Hallmark commercial because I teared up at the strangest moments! I could have thought I was losing my mind but that was not the case. The LORD is my light and my stronghold whether I’m in the dark or in the light. HE still lives in me and through me and does not leave when I’m not on the top of my game. I think that is the challenge with all of us when living out life with one another. It’s easy to be around someone who is a happy camper but a whole new story when their day has turned dark and they need a friend to light a candle for them because they have no strength to even find the matches. Still it’s a beautiful season for me personally because of my relationship with the Lord…its so sweet and so timely and so good. I’ve been sitting in my prayer room listening to some specific lyrics from Merchant Band when they sing, “You are so good – You never leave, like I think You should. You are so kind ….You still give me life. I’ll let You make me, I’ll let You break me, I’ll let You fix me until we’re One.” It’s on repeat until I switch over to another song by Jason Upton when he sings, “Come up here, come up here My beloved” and he sings about John on the Isle of Patmos and his encounter with God. Powerful. In case you don’t know, John was banished to an island because of him being a follower of the Christ. He had to encourage himself in The Lord for many years because in a much stronger way than me, he was definitely stuck in a parking lot.

Enemy of Our Souls

You might ask if I’m feeling sorry for myself – no that’s not it. You might ask if I’m hurting or in pain – no, not as far as I know – but it could be part of it. Frankly, I have a sneaky suspicion that some of the emotions and ideas stem back to earlier in the year. Also, I feel I made some sort of emotional covenant with an ungodly source and this is truly the enemy to my soul right now….granted…yes…God is living and breathing in me and loving me….but some of this emotional duress is due to something other than God drawing me.  Yesterday, I dealt a bit with the enemy of my soul and felt a strong breaking through into my true self. I will tell you that whatever season of life you are in –  if you don’t deal with your emotions, ideas, feelings – they WILL eventually deal with you. So all of that is pretty much why I’m still stuck in a parking lot.

Superwoman Cape

I’ve experienced some loss –  our sister moved to heaven in January of this year. Prior to that we had some friends who decided they were no longer our friends. My sister’s husband also, suddenly passed. We had strong changes as well as several deaths in our church family. In addition, we have had sicknesses in our immediate community. I’ve been taking in one thing at a time like a good soldier 🙂 with rare discussions with myself on how I am handling these shifts and transitions. I laid down my superwoman cape many years ago or so I thought…apparently, I had a spare cape in my closet that I slipped on….and have just been going going going…. Though I’m a spirit being, my human being part of me needs ministry and loving and stopping and considering this thing called life. So, that’s kind of what I sense The Lord doing in me in this particular season. Though it feels very odd and out of sorts to be stuck in a parking lot, I’m cognizant that I have a good Father Who cares for me and is drawing me into His lap. We are reasoning together in this season – Him doing the talking and me doing the weeping – I mean listening. HE is building me back up and encouraging me and strengthening me. Admittedly, I’m thankful HIS love for me is so deep and wide. Though you may not be stuck in a parking lot, I want to encourage you to take deep breaths, look around, breathe again and give yourself a great big HUG from God. HE is never too busy to love on us whether we are on the road or still stuck in a parking lot.

BE BRAVE

Therefore, it may be time for you to prepare yourself to be BRAVE and #bravetobraver. Get ready to GIRD yourself up with BOLDNESS and realize you CANNOT live in a parking lot. So, have some RESPECT for yourself and get the plan of ACTION you are going to take when it is time to take it. Know it will prove to be a VICTORIOUS move over your past and very ENCOURAGING! God loves you and HE is for you and HE knows who we are and where we are and HE is not in a hurry to be in a hurry. So, I declare over you and me a release from false obligations, false responsibilities and false relationships so that you and I can BE STILL AND KNOW how good HE is and how for us HE really is….

PS………I’m not living here and you should not either – I’m already planning my escape and writing my next word –  LEAVING THE PARKING LOT……..LOL – how about you?

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d

Climb the Mountain to See the View

Donna Reiners www.bravetobraver.comSo, here we are again on the same side of the mountain we were twenty years ago. When will it ever change? When will victory be experienced in real life and not just in that spiritual zone where everyone says the Victory has been won? All I can say is there is no sin in starting again. The truth is that you have to climb the mountain to see the view.

What IF You Never Make It?

Maybe – just maybe – you will never make it to the top. What then? Does that make you or me a loser? If so, then we are gauging our life by our do instead of our Who. I know that is not supercharisfragilisticomatic language but true nevertheless. Does this mean it is okay that you give up and turn back or sit down and stop moving? Not at all. What does it mean then? Ever so often you must make an evaluation of your real life – not the life others see on the surface but the one you live in the deep. Then, you need to make some decisions. What do you want? What does God want? Then, what is the plan to bring about the wants? If you don’t have one then you probably won’t have the courage to start again – to dream again – to plan again – to live again. You must climb the mountain to see the view.

Fail to Plan and Plan to Fail

A friend told me recently that if you fail to plan, then you plan to fail. She and I were discussing health and eating and food choices and how to keep those meals a coming and how to not be taken off guard on the days of RUSH. But, truly such a statement pertains to all of life’s goals, dreams, wishes and wants. I’m over fifty now and those goals, dreams, wishes and wants have indeed changed through the years. I’m getting to a place where the making of a single memory with a close friend or partner in life is as valuable to me as my own greatest personal desire coming forth. Why? Because as I make memories and hug necks and encourage hearts – it reminds me that I am not alone in my journey and others are also not alone. WE ARE a community as we climb the mountain to see the view.

BE BRAVE

One more thought – no one should walk out life alone. I know that it is ultimately me and God – I get that. However in the context of me and God, we should BE BRAVE and BOLDLY grab another person to walk out life with us. That being said – if you have not been able to climb the mountain – perhaps it is time you rise up in a fresh RESPECT and get some new tools for the journey. Take ACTION and grab a friend who also has had difficulty making the climb and maybe – just maybe – you should – with an attitude of great VICTORY – dig your way through. Either way my friend and however you wish to make your trip – let us ENCOURAGE one another as we continue our climb in, on or through the mountain so that we can see the view – together.

Until next time,
d

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